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Do you think it's wrong to like/ be attracted to someone based solely on their race?

you hear about people who say they will only date someone of a certain race, whatever the reason. at least i have heard and seen this. has anyone one else witnessed this? what do you think about it?
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What we like or are attracted to is a personal choice, so I don't think it can be labeled right or wrong. But,I think when you limit yourself to just one type of person, you can miss out on some really great people.
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Posted Jun 23rd, 2009 at 7:36PM
I think you should have asked 'Is it wrong to NOT be attracted to someone based solely on their race'.. I try to see everyone as individuals, but I do have personal preferences about what I find aesthetically pleasing.. Is that wrong?
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Posted Jun 23rd, 2009 at 7:36PM
I don't know that I would say it's wrong, but rather a little short-sighted.
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Posted Jun 23rd, 2009 at 8:07PM
I think it's kind of weird. Like they're fetishizing someone's race or something, without actually looking at them as a person. It sounds like a form of (less negative) racism.
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Posted Jun 24th, 2009 at 9:05PM
I find it rather shallow and stereotypical....but it really is a person's choice. Sadly, media influences everything from what the definition of attractiveness is to stereotyping a certain race's behaviour to be a certain way. I must admit, there are times when i wonder if a person is attracted to WHO i am or WHAT they perceive me to be. I hope people will take heed from the old En Vogue song, "FREE YOUR MIND"...because even for me, a good looking man is a good looking man....no matter what race he is!!!!
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Posted Jun 23rd, 2009 at 5:52PM
Everybody is attracted to different qualities in people. I wouldn't judge why someone is attracted to someone else. It's their choice. If someone is HATING on someone due to their race, then I think that is a sign of ignorance and stupidity.
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Posted Jun 23rd, 2009 at 5:53PM
Overall i would think personality should matter more however i will confess that i find darker men more attractive from a first glance, but i suppose when you get to know someone a bit more attraction can develop, id think that it were wrong to not give anyone a chance because of their race.
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Posted Jun 23rd, 2009 at 5:53PM
It's not wrong. You're free to like who you want. I know a lot of people that consider race as an aspect when searching for a partner. However, if you're automatically attracted to somebody because of their race then you.. have really low standards.
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Posted Jun 23rd, 2009 at 5:54PM
Yeah, I've heard it plenty. I don't think it's wrong though. I think it's how you were raised and brought up--who the majority race was growing up.
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Posted Jun 23rd, 2009 at 5:54PM
maybe not wrong, just a little shallow.
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Posted Jun 23rd, 2009 at 5:55PM
"Race" there is only one of..human. Ethnic group or Nationality there are several of.
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Posted Jun 23rd, 2009 at 5:59PM
I think a lot of it has to do with how a person was raised. I personally don't mind the race. Each person has their ups and downs. However, I know it would cause me a lot of stress because of family memebers who consider dating outside of race is wrong. I believe each human is equal despite the color. We all think alike and share a few common values. But I also see where a relationship with someone is going to be personal strife to more than one person and including myself...I would try my best to not like someone from a different race. There are so many different reasons o stay with your race, and many of those reason are how you will be treated and if you can handle that stress. I believe that in this situation you have to think of how your family will respond and if they will still accept you. I know it's the 21st centry and many people should be over discussions like this but they are not. Someone once said that they wouldn't do it because "mixed" (sorry if that's an incorrect term) children face a lot of critism. which makes sense to me.
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Posted Jun 23rd, 2009 at 6:00PM
i already have a man but if i didnt:

im mostly only attracted to white guys with tattoos & piercings... that doesnt mean i wouldnt date anyone else but i wouldnt be immediately attracted by them & it would be more of a gradual thing (like once i got to know them better & they had an attractive personality... which is what happened with my man even though he's a white guy with lots of tattoos i wasnt immediately attracted to him either)
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Posted Jun 23rd, 2009 at 6:12PM
Lots of people choose to date a certain race. Whether or not it is wrong, it is certainly very common.
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Posted Jun 23rd, 2009 at 6:20PM
I figure they do that just to get some attention.
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Posted Jun 23rd, 2009 at 6:25PM
not really, but if it is the only thing that matters to you it might bring problems
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Posted Jun 23rd, 2009 at 6:47PM
I was raised to be with my own race. However, I once told my mom what if the baby is black? She stated "dont push it"!

I come from a German family they almost act like Adolf Hilter.
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Posted Jun 23rd, 2009 at 6:53PM
nope!there are worse things that you could base it on!
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Posted Jun 23rd, 2009 at 11:03PM
No, it's not wrong to have a preference.
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Posted Jun 23rd, 2009 at 11:08PM
For sure, this is wrong, because racism is radically wrong.
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