Do you think relationships with big age differences usually work or fail?

My late husband was 13 years older than me and we were married for 22 years before he died.. I don't think age really matters.

Age doesn't matter at all. As long as everything is consentual and the person is at least of emotional maturity then I'd say it's fine. I've seen many of them work :)

I don't think age should matter. As long as you love each other and enjoy each others company.

It isn't the age difference or similarity that makes a relationship work or fail, it's the age the partners act in trying to keep the relationship together (or in wrecking it). Some young folks are old beyond their years, some old folks are immature, some don't act their age ever, and maybe that's a good thing. The important thing is to enjoy your partner and to heck with what other people say.

I think that they usually work. I date guys mostly older or younger than me and as long as they let me be myself we get along well.

My girl and i have a 17yr age gap and on the whole get on fine however when we argue theres no holds barred . So on the whole i would say theres as much chance of survival as any other.

depends on how mature the person is mentally if they're younger i suppose

it doesn'y matter there's 17 years between me and my girlfriend I think its down to the individual people, you have as much chance of makin it work as a couple of the same age!

fail

I believe age matters to a point. My mother married a man 11 years her senior (marriage lasted 16 years - he passed away), and my great aunt married a man 11 years her junior (lasted 60 years - she passed last year.) Personally I think 10 years above or below is ideal.

My dad is 20 years older than my mom, and they seem very happy after going on 20 years. Personally, I always figured I'd stay in my own age range, but lately I've been thinking there'd be merit to finding an older guy. I don't like the idea of older woman/ younger guy relationships as much, but that's just me, and I guess it all depends on the couple.

it could fail, but if there's enough understanding & maturity n both parties, it will definitely work. age is nothing but a number.

It's not the age that matters (as long as you are both adults) its all about compatibility and communication. If a relationship isn't working out and the only reason is the age difference then that means that one or both of the people in the relationship have a problem with the age gap.

I'm pondering the same question. A guy likes me that is 14 years older than me...Well....every guy that likes me is way older than me, and I'm just kinda afraid we'll have a generation gap issue. But I guess sooner or later I'm gonna have to settle. :)

WHEN THE IS AN BIG AGE DIFFERENCE YOU RISK NOT HAVING ANYTHING IN COMMON..LET'S SAY YOU ARE AROUND 30 AND HE IS 50..WELL, YOU ARE STILL VIBRANT AND ALIVE, FEELING READY FOR THE WORLD WHEN IT COMES TO WANTING TO HAVE SEX..THE 50 YR. OLD HAS ALREADY BEEN THROUGH THAT TIME IN THEIR LIFE AND SEX DOESN'T MEAN THAT MUCH TO THEM ANYMORE(MOST CASES)..THEN YOU ARE IN TROUBLE AND START SEEKING THE ATTENTION YOU CRAVE FROM OTHERS..THEN YOU CHEAT, THEN IT'S OVER..SO I SAY, NO MORE THAN A 10YRS DIFFERENCE, IF THAT.

My grandfather has a girlfriend half his age, and I hate it.

For them it works but it ruined our family because he is ashamed to admit he has a 23 year-old granddaughter. He would rather say he has a 23 year-old girlfriend.

i say it depends on the individuals, their experiences, the commonality between them, and a shared vision of where the relationship can head realistically. i was 'involved' with a guy that's seven years my junior and i felt like i was his mom. he loved to call me milf, which i thought was cute. drifting... we are definitely in two different stages in life and my 'life' experiences outweigh his tremendously. i met a guy who's the same age as he but he's from the south, like me, is a parent as well, and we share the same goals, life experiences, and visions of where the relationship can lead realistically and it's totally different. i think, for now, i've found what i was looking for just when i decided to stop looking. i suggest honesty. when u know the cards ur being dealt u can play ur hand appropriately.

Well i think we develop relationships on base of trust care understanding and love, if you have trust in your relationship then age can be a secondary factor.. but we should be little realistics too developing such relationships in which we have difference of years .. because we are not alone our decisions affect a whole line of our relatives.


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I think dancingonthehill has it right. People mature at different rates. Guys tend to be much slower than girls. A guy in his early 30's is usually in the same place as a girl in her early to mid 20's.

But it is all about the two people and the connection they make. When it's the right person - age doesn't matter, all that matters is that they are together. They enjoy being with each other and that's the most important thing.

If the age difference is bothering you, then perhaps he/she is not the right person for you.