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Do You Think That People Who Don't Have Children End Up Selfish And Miserable?

-I don't want children but many people have told me that as a result, I'll end up miserable and selfish.

-Like other childless people they know

What do you think?

-I plan on being a cat Mummy, like the cat lady from the Simpsons minus the screaming and crazyness.

Thanks for commenting x

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19 Answers to "Do You Think That People Who Don't Have Children End Up Selfish And Miserable?"

  1. imabear - 51-55 years old - female

    Posted by imabear Jul 4th, 2012 at 7:20PM

    That's ridiculous. I never had kids (I'm middle aged so the option is gone for me at this point) and I'm not selfish or miserable. Not to mention that I know some people with kids who are selfish and miserable. Having kids doesn't automatically make you generous and happy...

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  2. CharlieTheBeagle - 56-60 years old - male

    Posted by CharlieTheBeagle Jul 4th, 2012 at 7:18PM

    No more than I think people with children try to twist society's priorities to favor their idiot offspring.

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  3. Pumpkinseeds - 22-25 years old - female

    Reply by Pumpkinseeds Jul 4th, 2012 at 7:20PM

    LOL!

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  4. laniferous - 36-40 years old - female

    Reply by laniferous Jul 4th, 2012 at 7:26PM

    Winner!

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  5. Thekidsmom - 36-40 years old - female

    Posted by Thekidsmom Jul 4th, 2012 at 7:17PM

    no, they end up with more retirement money and fewer headaches...it's fine

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  6. ShyButCreativeSexyGuy - 46-50 years old - male

    Reply by ShyButCreativeSexyGuy Jul 4th, 2012 at 8:15PM

    Dis woman aint daft

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  7. Thekidsmom - 36-40 years old - female

    Reply by Thekidsmom Jul 4th, 2012 at 8:15PM

    thanks

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  8. Bluebie - 46-50 years old - female

    Posted by Bluebie Jul 4th, 2012 at 7:52PM

    I think it is selfish, miserable people who end up selfish and miserable, whether they have children or not.

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  9. Serenitree - 66-70 years old - female

    Posted by Serenitree Jul 4th, 2012 at 7:21PM

    No, why would they?

    I just don't know why they choose to remain childless. So many of them are certain that they could do a much better job of raising children than any of the parents they see.

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  10. laniferous - 36-40 years old - female

    Posted by laniferous Jul 4th, 2012 at 7:17PM

    No they end up going to Hawaii every year because they can spend all their money on themselves!

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  11. AaronMountainOfStrength - 18-21 years old

    Reply by AaronMountainOfStrength Jul 4th, 2012 at 7:20PM

    Somebody knows what i'm talking about. XD

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  12. Twotearsinabucket - 46-50 years old - female

    Posted by Twotearsinabucket Jul 4th, 2012 at 8:18PM

    My sister always wanted children. From the time we were children she knew she wanted lots of children. As fate would have it, she has none. She became a teacher so she could "have children." Now, in her 40s and still childless, she is one of the most kind, caring, generous people I have ever in my life known, and has confided that she would not have been able to lead the life she has, full of travel and excitement, if she had, after all, had children.

    A close friend of mine (male) and his wife never had children. Now in their late 50s, he is moderately miserable and selfish and she is not at all.

    My point is... "you can't judge from half the whole." Everyone is different. I agree with ChidoriSasuke. Only "if you allow yourself to be" will you be miserable and selfish.

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  13. caramelLova1 - 31-35 years old - female

    Posted by caramelLova1 Jul 4th, 2012 at 7:55PM

    No I dont. Some folks just dont have the parental instincts. They might have the money or resources but probably lack in the emotional area. In my opinion, bringing kids in the world is a job and it shouldnt be taken lightly. There's too many people breeding just because they want a mini me or for someone to change their diapers when theyre old & crusty. Lol

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  14. GTR1400 - 61-65 years old - male

    Posted by GTR1400 Jul 4th, 2012 at 7:55PM

    No. At the time my spouse and I were considering children we made so little that we could not see how we would be able to afford to educate any child.

    Instead, we have borrowed our nephews and nieces and have taken them on trips, backpacking, rafting, and everything in between. They still remember things. We love them all.

    The finest compliment in my life what when a niece, who's father had died, asked me to walk her down the aisle at her wedding. If there is nothing else that is nice in my life, that stands out as something I am happiest about.

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  15. aeon5844 - 26-30 years old

    Posted by aeon5844 Jul 4th, 2012 at 7:21PM

    Well, I am a teacher and currently have no children nor do I want any. Not having kids does not make one selfish, ignoring what people around you who you care about need makes you selfish. As far as being miserable, that depends on how you choose to live your life doesn't it; if you find people who make you happy regardless of your age you will be happy.

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  16. MmmBabi - 46-50 years old - female

    Posted by MmmBabi Jul 4th, 2012 at 7:20PM

    The people that I know that have chosen not to have them are VERY satisfied with their decision.
    The ones that wanted but never did ended up a little bitter and sad.

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  17. jeanemae - 26-30 years old

    Posted by jeanemae Jul 4th, 2012 at 7:19PM

    Not in my experience ...

    You shouldn't live your life based on what others believe.

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  18. Pumpkinseeds - 22-25 years old - female

    Reply by Pumpkinseeds Jul 4th, 2012 at 7:27PM

    Ture but they are putting a lot of pressure on me now. (My family) and now I'm thinking, "What if I want them in the future and the opportunuty passes for me?"

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  19. jeanemae - 26-30 years old

    Reply by jeanemae Jul 4th, 2012 at 7:37PM

    Kids are. Not the sort choice one should make based on family pressure. If it's that bad, that a sign that you need to create some distance. You shouldn't live your life for others. And you certainly shouldn't create life just because you've been pressured.

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  20. 151rby - 22-25 years old - male

    Posted by 151rby Jul 4th, 2012 at 7:17PM

    Most of the parents I've met were selfish and miserable.

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  21. ELFINSONG - 56-60 years old - male

    Posted by ELFINSONG Jul 4th, 2012 at 8:05PM

    When I said I had decided to not have children Several told me that was selfish..........
    My reply was "How can it not be selfish to want to have a duplicate of you running around?"

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  22. FurryFace - 51-55 years old - male

    Posted by FurryFace Jul 4th, 2012 at 7:45PM

    not really

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  23. ShyButCreativeSexyGuy - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by ShyButCreativeSexyGuy Jul 4th, 2012 at 7:39PM

    Few expound Jesus' endtime prophecy, "Woe to pregnant women & nursing mothers in those days"

    Matt 24 is often called a one-chapter summary of endtime Bible prophecy
    Jesus is asked when He wil return & what signs will show it's soon to take place

    A one-word summary of His reply is BIRTHPAINS

    He forecast every sort of natural, social & spiritual disaster to multiply accelerate & intensify

    As birthpains do

    & they hurt

    Intensely

    Many today don't wanna bring a baby into this increasingly cruel world

    This is the news story I came in with:-

    http://uk.news.yahoo.com/head-found-park-victim-****-actor-215600639.html

    Sickening, yes?

    I don't wanna father a baby

    But my 13 days of EP posts show I'm consistently happy

    & consistently focussed on helping others

    PM me any time, hon

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  24. Pumpkinseeds - 22-25 years old - female

    Reply by Pumpkinseeds Jul 4th, 2012 at 7:53PM

    I tried to click on that link but I could not find it.

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  25. zbignue - 70+ years old - male

    Posted by zbignue Jul 4th, 2012 at 7:34PM

    That's just an urban legend. Live your life as you wish. It is your life you know, not theirs.

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  26. steelguitarist - 56-60 years old - male

    Posted by steelguitarist Jul 4th, 2012 at 7:17PM

    My older brother and his wife never had kids and I've never seen two more selfish people. She is horrible and I hate her guts. And as a rule, I don't hate people. I'm glad she's across the country from me.

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  27. AaronMountainOfStrength - 18-21 years old

    Posted by AaronMountainOfStrength Jul 4th, 2012 at 7:16PM

    No. Why would you think that?

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  28. Pumpkinseeds - 22-25 years old - female

    Reply by Pumpkinseeds Jul 4th, 2012 at 7:19PM

    It's what I've been told.

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  29. AaronMountainOfStrength - 18-21 years old

    Reply by AaronMountainOfStrength Jul 4th, 2012 at 7:22PM

    You'll only end up miserable and selfish if you allow yourself to be. And they probably told you that because they are probably miserable with kids and wish they hadn't had any, so they want to see you possibly suffer as well.

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