Do you wish you had a better mother-daughter relationship, but don't know how to make it happen?
4 Answers to "Do you wish you had a better mother-daughter relationship, but don't know how to make it happen?"
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yes i do nothing has been the same since my mom married my stepdad and it seems like she is always angry at me while she is giving her husband praise for the things he has done when she doesnt know he he has been treating me. he's been saying and doing inappropriate things toward me since my mom has started her new job. im miserable and she doesnt make things easier when she starts to assume that im doing something with him when my stepfather is making these advances to me. i cant stand the fact that he is a two faced jerk
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Then you better warn your mum, dear. You can't blame her since he, like many others, are great liars etc. He surely doesnt deserve your mum
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i know and i dont want to blame her either. i have felt right around him for 13 years and thats too long for me
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YES I tried with all of my heart and everything in me to have a relationship of some kind with my mother. She had been a model with my aunt. She knows not how to love anything, but herself and as an adult I found out that 30 or more people had been keeping her secrets for her......from me. The biggest is that I have siblings all she had given up for adoption and will never tell me when or dates to find them. One younger sister miraculously found me. The others are lost to their narcissistic mother we share. My aunt is just as selfish and self centered.
In our family everything is about what you look like, being perfect etc.....if you aren't you are unworthy. My mother since childhood has seen me as competition instead of a daughter. She hates me for the things I have that she wished for......such as my hair......or that I am younger or tinier than she. I spent too many years feeling awful attempting to do something for this woman to love me even knowing I had far surpassed anything she could ever have accomplished on her own as a single woman. She married men for money, period. She never had to work, let alone buy her own home, or a thing as small as a new car. Giving up was a gift to me. When I find myself missing her I remind myself that its the mother she should have been that I am missing and not her herself. She was too selfish to give me up and have a chance at a family that would love me because I was worth MONEY while my father who also forgot about me stayed in southern California....far away from her. In his eyes I was bought and paid for.Like (1)
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Im so sorry gf.. I probably don't have any other advice besides praying. Families are supposed to love and care for each other... nothing less. However, you should forgive her and try to UNDERSTAND why she is like that. You might even realise she is having her own inner battles
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sorry, but there is much more to it than that. she has left scars that i have to look at every day of my life from being beaten and thrown around so badly that I ended up in the ER so many times that I was taken from her twice. I don't understand why they kept giving her chances? she had me so terrified of her that I was brainwashed to say "oh Im clumsy" or must have fallen if anyone asked about the bigger than softball black, blue, and purple bruises that I consistently wore. There is no forgiving evil. I can only pity her never knowing what it is to love.......there is even much more she's done than this.....much, much, much more. She was so insecure she didn't want anyone to love a little girl. I was kept from my real family because they testified against her in court over her character. Life has always been a struggle, but I am striving to change that asap in realization that we all only have one life and won't be here forever. I want to know real love and the men I have been with felt they owned me or wanted something, but didn't love me.
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My mom sees too much of my father in me, she hates the way I laugh, she never hugs me our says 'I love you' unless its a special occasion. Can't brush off the feeling that shes right; that I'm good for nothing really. Logically I can think, no that's not true, but its been all I've known all my life
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Posted by meteorite Nov 19th, 2011 at 3:46AM
No..my Mum sucks...she isnt a warm and fuzzy.
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