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Vermillion44863
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Does a parent have "the right" to know EVERYTHING about their child(ren)?
By "the right" I mean "cleaning up" their children's living space, most likely snooping. Or making their children's friends their friends also. Snooping at their online blogs. Making friends with their children's former coworkers or former highshcool classmates. Basically not having a respect for boundaries at all. I write this in hopes of my own mother reading this. I can understand being protective when living under a parents roof but not when the daughter has grown up and moved out.
Posted 2 months ago
MegJgeM
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There is a certain "right" in order to protect children who are still minors. But there comes a time when we as parents must let go and turn our creations out and into the world and hope that what we have taught them will always lead them home and to make good decisions:-)
Posted 2 months ago
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Markismyheart
Posted Nov 3rd, 2008 at 10:37AM
While they are minors, yes. As adults, no. You have certain rights as ADULTS. They should respect that.
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biscuits
Posted Nov 5th, 2008 at 6:02AM
Boundaries are important, but, a parent should be aware of anything that may harm their minor child in any way so they can help to right it for them. It is their responsiblity to do so.
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autimom
Posted Nov 3rd, 2008 at 9:50AM
Sometimes you have to do what you have to do if your gut is telling you something is off with your child. Once a child is over 18 and moved out of the house--anything that you describe would be an invasion of privacy.
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jtab4995
Posted Nov 3rd, 2008 at 9:58AM
No the parent doesn't have that right once the child is an adult and has moved out! If a child turns 18 but is still in high school and living at home, then they are technically still "a child" in my opinion. However, there has to be a sliding scale where a child is given more and more freedom as they mature, which prepares the child to go out onhis/her own. Some parents may have a harder time with this than others. I wonder if your mother has unresolved issues of loss.
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Creamsicle
Posted Nov 3rd, 2008 at 2:59PM
Depends on how old the child(ren) are and if they're adults and still living at home where the parent is paying their living expenses, then YES.

If they are independent adults, then no.... not really, although anything placed publicly online is expected to be able to read by anyone (parents included if they desired)
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lmg007
Posted Nov 3rd, 2008 at 3:10PM
There is a BIG difference in protecting your 10 year old, and snooping in the life of your 20 or 30 year old. There is a reason we grow up, move out, and become adults. As a Parent it is my job to teach, guide, and mold my Child so they Can become adults. Then how they live their life is up to the them and I truly have no more "rights". That being said I do not think parents stop being parents because kids stop being kids. You always love, worry, and wonder....for some it is hard to let go of being responsible for their children. Creating healthy boundaries is important for both of you.
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TheatreGirl
Posted Nov 3rd, 2008 at 3:22PM
I think parents should have the right to know everything if their child(dren) is/are a minor/minors.

However, once the child(dren) is/are over say 21, I don't think that should continue! I'm 27 now and my parents respect my right to privacy (thank goodness!)
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joyceb
Posted Nov 3rd, 2008 at 3:26PM
YES, ITS ONLY BECAUSE THEY LOVE YOU.AND WOULD LIKE TO KEEP YA SAFE:-)
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dotan
Posted Nov 4th, 2008 at 12:37PM
No. I hate that. It means parents don't believe on their children. They don't respect their sons, daughters. It also means they (parents) are not confident about themselves.
So so bad.
Please make a home where people wanna be back. Everyone of us need something private just for us. Marriage is also an action which human want to establish some private rights for their possession. Don't make your children keep all thing in their heart. It will give the bad result that we don't know exactly.
Fasten is good. But please don't abuse it. We are human... Maybe sometimes something wrong will be done. but replace for that is " growing up". Don't you think so?
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fukkboii
Posted Nov 5th, 2008 at 1:21PM
AS LONG AS THEY ARE TAKING CARE OF THEM, HELL YES!
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thebaldeagle
Posted Nov 5th, 2008 at 10:28PM
if You the Child Are an Adult, And Live In the Parents Home Yes, If You Live Outside the Home, Then NO. Simple. Eventhough We Parents Are Indeed Protective, If You Live In Our Home, Then You Are To Live With Our Guidelines, If We Suspect that something, or Someone Threatens Our Home WE have the Right To Know What that Threat is, IF However, This is NOT the Case, and You Do Not Live in Our Home Then NO, that Would Be Grounds for Invasion Of Privacy, up to and including Willful Stalking of an ADULT Subject and is Punishable by Law, If it Goes to Breaking and Entering, then ofcourse You Can Take Legal action. Your Life is Your own if You are of Legal Age and Concidered to be an Adult, Even if the Parent/s are Paying Your Rent.
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