I don't think she was meaning to be mean, but rather she got nervous about meeting you. I have a feeling that she has low self esteem and that you probably wouldn't be interested in her once you met her anyways. I have a feeling you are dealing with a girl rather than a woman and these things are to be expected.
It sounds like she likes to text and isn't really down with everything else. She wanted to text flirt and you wanted to take it farther and she wasn't into it. It was mean of her to drag it out and lead you on, but come on dude, you are taking it way too seriously.
The ***** doesn't give a hoot in hell about you - get over it