Is it possible that she senses that you haven't warmed up to her and therefore acts out more?
She would have know
Children do pick up on the fact that other people do not like them.
My ex-husband didn't like my son. I had to call the police once because he punched my son in an altercation. Our marriage ended badly. I'm glad I chose my son over him.
This is why I dont believe in re - marriage, especially if you already have kids....
you cant help who you fall in love with.
But you can help who you marry
i cant relate but you need to see a therapist to help you out though this point and give you advice of what you can do
i dont know how i would deal with it especially because she is the reason why your daughter left.