Does anyone have a loved one in jail that so depressed they refuse visits?

No. but I have before. There are stages they go through as well as their loved ones. When they get to the stage of 'Acceptance', accepting the fact that they are there for however long it'll be, once you begin to visit them, they will look forward to every visit you can make with them.But for now, just keep accepting those 'Inmate' calls!

You think that's it? That person doesn't want to see YOU. Saying they are depressed is a cover up. Don't waste your time. If they cared about anything they wouldn't have done what they did to end up in jail in the first place. People make choices and must live with what they decide whether it's good or bad. Get on with your own life and let that person do their time.

There was a prisoner who was depressed. He was serving a long sentence. The custody staff drew this guy's situation to the prison chaplain. The chaplain visited him in his cell and spoke to him but there was no reply. The prisoner was perched on his bed with head bowed. The chaplain remained for an hour during which time he spoke interestingly of a few topical news and sports items then left but before doing so said he would be back to see him next week.

The following week there was no noticeable change but the chaplain remained for the hour, imparted more topical matters then departed promising to return the following week.

The prisoner was being seen by the prison psychiatrist and was clearly deeply depressed. He would carry out a few functional features like personal hygiene and nibbling at his food which was brought to his cell.

For 7 weeks the chaplain visited but did not see any improvement in the prisoners condition. On the 8th week the chaplain was not able to manage the visit but did so on the 9th week. Upon entering the cell the prisoner raised his head and said, "Where were you last week?"

Moral of story (well almost); write to the prison chaplain.

They may be deeply depressed and ashamed of themselves also....if they don;t want to actually see you then write letters as often as you can....was definately a morale booster for me when I was doing my time

No, my ex is dyin for me to see him but I dont have a car. Pm me if you want to talk!