Does God allow you to follow your dead children?

What a heartbreaking question.....Hugs for you my dear..

Christ affirms that children are pure (not necessary as Christians, Baha'is or Buddhists), so they must have gone to the Kingdom of God, while the Christians do not automatically join their children up there. In order to attain this cherished purpose they must learn how to keep their hearts pure until the last breath.
As a Baha'i, I believe in this lesson of Christ, which is also the lesson of the Buddha, Baha'u'llah...and all other Messengers of God.
All souls will pass onto the spiritual world of God, but dirty souls are immensely separated from the pure souls. As for this spiritual condition, we have to study more from various Holy Books.

Do you believe the fact in hell you only see heaven. If hes didnt believe and killed himself he had problems. God has mercy for troubled souls. Sorry about your son. Hope you both make it to heaven.

god is a all knowing force as u know he would gladly let u make ur own desition on were u want to go and i also believe that if ur son was young he would still go to hevean and if he was older to as long as he was a good person before he died.

god allows it through the observer, witch is you. :)

I'm going to say this because it was said to me after I attempted suicide 4 years ago-- "Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem." I'm not saying your son's death is temporary or that it isn't heartbreaking, but you will not always feel suicidal, and I'm sure your son wouldn't want his mother to kill herself.

The Christian god sent humans to the Earth with free-will, and wants humans to use this free-will. So ultimately, I think this decision is up to you.