Does he like more than a friend?

Listen to your friends. Move on, and if he likes you as more than a friend he'll get jealous and make his move. And if he doesn't, then at least you don't have to be alone as you get over it.

I've been in a similar situation where people have told me to move on from someone. This girl I was madly in love with always gave me signs that she had feelings for me, and when I asked her how she felt , she'd always say she saw me as a friend. She had a bf though, and I was two years older than her. I'm in college now, she's still in high school. You're in college, I would guess, giving your 21, and he's six years older than you. It sounds to me like he likes you a lot, but there are certain factors preventing him from making any decisions. I believe age plays a HUGE role in determining whether it makes it easy or hard for two people to get together. The girl I was madly in love with had a bf HER OWN AGE. He was a complete jackass, though. If you really do like him, trust your heart and be there for him. Don't spend your whole life waiting, though, if another guy you like comes along and wants to be with you, take that opportunity. Always have an open heart and mind, and the right person will walk into your life, whether it's him or someone else. Don't base your decisions on other people's judgment, base it on your own. And don't let him string you along either, people like that have power over you if you let them take that course of action. I'd give it more time and if he still acts this way with you, try and get into a conversation with him about the feelings you have, play it smoothly, then maybe his will finally come out. If he never does tell you his feelings, than you should try and find someone else. It's horrible waiting around for someone when they never come to you. I waited for this girl 11 months, and she's still with that jackass. Hope this advice helps. Good luck.

He already told you how he sees you and when that changes he will or should say so. I think if you can comfortably be this close to him and it doesn't stop you from seeing other opportunities than it is okay to continue as you are. But..... because he said he likes you as a friend, and has made an excuse that he waits a long time to ask someone out on a date he's sort of controlling the situation. Which is unfair to you . He is enjoying the comfort of a close relationship without the label . If you are hoping for more and waiting .... he will eventually start a romantic relationship with someone quickly and you will be hurt. I think you should have the relationship on your own terms if you are happy to be friends that is fine but honestly look at the constant communication you are having .... would that allow someone that really wants to date you in? I think not. Are you able to go on a date right now and talk to him about it later? If not....its because you see him as a boyfriend and are being loyal to him without the benefit of a relationship. Is he is or has he dated others even casually while you have been friends and told you about it? A friend will tell their other friends these things and 'talk it over' . Sorry this is sort of long...but I have had similar relationships with men and those that are my 'friends' I can share and talk about these things with ...those that see me as a potential romantic relationship or would like to keep the door to even a casual romantic relationship in the future open will say 'they are a friend' but you know the difference. As long as you are waiting and losing time or being continually disappointed that he doesn't move forward it isn't a good thing for you - a friendship with anyone is great but both people should be growing together. Its unfair but often in life one person likes the other person more and the other person holds on to the person because they like the attention but doesn't really consider that person 'relationship material' or aren't ready for a relationship at all. If they are both honest and allow eachother to move on romantically it can be fine but that isn't how it usually works. I've had both situations when the guys have had feelings for me and I haven't for them I am quite alright staying friendly but if they are hoping for more and making the effort they begin to feel rejected and eventually I have felt 'pushed' because they are texting and calling every morning or night and sad if I don't respond immediatly. Its sad but really the best thing to do when someone has started to love you and you don't feel the same is to have a little distance and let them move on and be honest about what you are feeling and doing. That way a friendship , perhaps not as close but real, can continue and both people feel respected. In the reverse i was recently on the other side ...exactly your situation... I developed a close relationship with a guy and we were very close friends and romantically connected as well. He texted everyday called all the time every night b4 bed or in the morning b4 work to see how I was and wish me a good day or a good sleep. Like you I told him I had feelings and he said he saw me as his close friend we continued in the same way and once in awhile there was definitely romantic signals on both sides and romantic words from him but I realized it was 'me' that was aching to hear his voice and it was my heart that lept when he did something kind , it was me that was concerned with his problems and careful with his feelings etc etc because I was falling in love. But as my feelings grew the silent periods even a night without a call hurt. I was not interested in dating anyone else . And if he did he didn't talk about it . See we weren't really friends because we were too careful not expressing our feelings about eachother even though we talked about everything else - that isn't really a friend. With all those signals I convinced myself he really did care more or had strong hopes that he did. Than a few things helped me to open my eyes... first I heard him refer to girls he didn't even know as 'friends' I heard him talk to a girl he was rejecting for dates as 'a good friend' and over time he began making lots of excuses as to why he was starting to distance himself a little fewer calls etc but always with comments that I was his bestest everest friend. Sooo why didn't feel like a best friend? Because he didn't treat me like a best friend or even a good friend. Did he like me more than a friend ? I think YES and I think your guy does too. But the point here is when a guy doesn't move forward it means he doesn't like you enough:(. Whatever the reasons a past heartache, current problems a fear of commitment even a fantasy of 'the woman he wants' ans while he thinks you are terrific you aren't that.... whatever it is. He has failed to move forward and you have stayed in the same place and it is bothering you and probably hurting you ... or you wouldn't have asked this question. So my advice is to stop trying to guess what he is thinking and focus on what you are feeling and thinking . There are a lot of men and women out there that are great at starting relationships but for whatever reason can't or don't move on and hold things in freezeframe. You sound like someone that can move on to the next level so leave him behind in your dust and do it. He may move forward with you in the future but I suspect he will slowly disappear because he is comfortable in the current situation doesn't want more and won't increase efforts to get what he had. It is confusing because he probably wouldn't like you to date others but hasn't got the will or ability to date you himself .It Sucks but that sounds like what is happening here :(. When you have decided that this is holding you back or hurting you ... you will start to move on or should. Believe me when a guy has decided that he wants a romantic relationship with you he will tell you and show you. If there really is a valid reason holding them back but they would like a relationship with you they will tell you that as well. i.e. I need to do this or that but want you in my life can you wait? But saying nothing and not moving forward means they are at the level they want. Unfortunately it seems that life is often uneven and the ones that do tell you are the ones you see as friends and the one you would like to love you see you as a friend. The good thing is that .... you WILL meet someone who is ready to risk a relationship to be closer to you as you do with them. Maybe someday he will want you as you do him but he is showing you his selfish and indecisive side now so over time you most probably will not see him in as positive a light as you do now. Having feelings for someone and sharing them is nothing to regret but waiting 6 months and possible another 6 months is something you will regret and should change. Forget trying to figure out what he wants or needs and focus on what you want and need he doesn't seem to want to give you that he's given you just enough to hold you in place and that isn't really a nice thing or being a friend at all. Hugs

By reading what u wrote.. I think he does like u.. I'm sure like the rest of us.. he's been hurt too many times so he's showing u that he likes u without saying it.. The next time that u guys hang out.. ask him if he likes u.. n if what u guys have now will ever go anywhere.. sometimes it's better to talk about it n see where things could go.. ur friends are right in a way.. u should move on.. but that can do both ways.. u can talk to other guys and if he sees that then it just might make him move faster in telling u that he does like u.. but then again it can go in a different dicrection.. he could also get upset with u seeing guys n never talk to u again.. just let him know that u do like him.. n if he likes u then u should get together.. u don't want to wait forever for him.. but in the mean time.. just wait it out a lil bit.. he might be still trying to get to know u.. it's best to get to know someone before putting ur heart into a relationship.. everytime that u guys hang out.. just be urself more n more.. n let him know with out telling him that he can trust u n u'll make a good girlfriend.. good luck.. n let me know how things go.

People sometimes send strange signals. Example:

Where I work, there are a lot of women. It's a shopping mall basically. One slow night, this girl working at the shop across the hall from me walks into my store and offers to buy me a coffee. I hesitate, but then oblige and say thank you. She comes back ten minutes later with a coffee for me. I say thank you, can I pay you for it, bla bla bla. She says it's her treat, and is on her way.
My brain processes this as her displaying a sure signal that she has some interest level in me. I must be right. This must be a sure bet! EEEHHH! Wrong. After mustering up enough courage to walk into the lion's den, a.k.a, the shop where she works that is full of curious eyes, I find out that she has a boyfriend. A Boyfriend! Why would this seemingly normal, and not psycotic woman buy me a coffee and even pay for it? We never spoke until then. We never glanced at each other until then. We didn't even know each others names 'till then. So why the coffee? What was she thinking? Did she not realize that this coffee meant that we would be soon sharing a cigarette after a long love making session? Was she so twisted that she didn't realize this? Or was she just offering a friendly hand at a fellow bored worker? I don't know. All I know is that it was a missed signal by me. It happens.

But that's not why you called...

I like the answer that musicman provided for you. I think you should communicate how you feel towards him. He might have a different idea of what he want's now. But like it was said, do not let him string you along. Be happy. Do what makes you smile. If you enjoy talking to him as a friend, then continue to do so. But if you want your relationship with him to move forward in a more romantic way, then you must speak up.

Cheers,