Does it all come down to looks in a relationship and in life in general? Ex: jobs, dating, socializing, etc?

Asked By: jsanza29 22-25, M 10 months ago

I believe beauty is generally not subjective! You either have it or you don't!

So today I got rejected by yet another girl. She told me I'm not her kind of guy but not the ugliest guy she's ever seen. She was a pretty cute girl too :/ What exactly does she mean by that statement? This whole time I couldn't understand why I'v been told the classic phrase "Your not my type" by lots of girls until today. I found out today why girls tell me I'm not their type. The girl I got rejected by today told me it's mostly because I'm not good looking enough for today's standards. I'm pretty ****** basically. I don't have ideal beauty that will help me get girlfriends nowadays. The girls go for the better looking guys such as guys that resemble the singers from One Direction. As a matter of fact I think I'm very ugly and so do others I've spoke to. I think the phrase "I'm not your type" is another way of saying the girl is shallow and you're not good looking enough for her standards! It's a poor excuse and a better way of her saying you're too ugly for her which is rude!!! You can see me in the link below out of curiosity whether I'm ugly or not. I hope you understand where I'm coming from!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UXXG66jNISg

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Posted by toebird Jul 9th, 2012 at 1:01AM

No! ...to a certain extent: yes! But those who are able to not care, find love and happiness!

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Posted by OurOnlyTime Jul 9th, 2012 at 1:27AM

If you are going to keep talking about how ugly you look I am going to say you sound retarted. you are not at all ugly and I would say you look better then the avarage 18 year old. juging from your face you are prob not fat and that alone will put you ahead of most americans.........:)
what I will say is that in your vidio you sound very unhappy. that in itself is not good for socializing.

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Reply by jsanza29 Jul 9th, 2012 at 1:39AM

Most people on this website say I'm ok looking but yet, there's a lot of people who think I'm ugly. So I'm very confused of who to believe. I myself think I'm ugly and it's not something I can just avoid like being afraid of the dark. The fact that I dislike my face and head shape, I can't avoid it at all. I gotta live with it ;( This has to be the worst obsession I've ever had..
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Reply by jacksprat3 Nov 8th, 2012 at 5:30PM

Google "Gerard Depardieu". Check out his images. There are a great many people who seem to find him ugly. What's more, there has been no little uncomplimentary chatter about his endowment. Regardless, check out his past romantic entanglements. The dude's done all right for himself. Cut yourself some slack. What's vastly more important, cut women some, as well. By that, I mean that you should be prepared to candidly discuss yourself with those girls who both (a) reject your overtures, and (b) seem otherwise well disposed to you. Face the issue bravely, with your chin up, without rancor or second-guessing on your part. You're not looking for all of the things which might disqualify you, for her, in that regard, but only for something which might have worked in your favor. Also, first off, hit the advice sections of both men's and women's mags, for tips on grooming and dress. Then, adapt them to your budget and the self-image that you want to project.
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Posted by Takumii Jul 9th, 2012 at 1:16AM

well, don't worry, they will realize their mistake sometimes or later in life .. next time anyone says that to you tell them peacefully ," some years from now you are gonna regret this." and just walk off ..
and.. next time date someone smart or experienced .. and yea, be a more confident.. everyone finds someone in their lives sooner or later.
sorry for making this long :)

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Reply by jsanza29 Jul 9th, 2012 at 1:20AM

You can see me in the link below. Is my looks an issue? Is that why I'm having so much trouble in life? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UXXG66jNISg
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Posted by iwantpizza Jul 9th, 2012 at 1:10AM

Hi. I watched your video. Honestly, there's nothing wrong with your looks - what's wrong is that your self esteem is low. The people who are WORTH dating, don't emphasize looks. They see who you are and they are attracted to that. When you are in your late teens and early twenties, people can be very shallow. When you get a little older, I've noticed that the good people grow out of that shallow way of thinking. You will be fine. You will get good people to date. The most important thing is to try to discover who you are and people will be very attracted to you if you like yourself.

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Reply by jsanza29 Jul 9th, 2012 at 1:14AM

I don't look retarded? How come people say that I look fine? Are you really sure about that? I find that I look retarded.
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Reply by iwantpizza Jul 9th, 2012 at 1:18AM

No, you don't look retarded. People are cruel. They'll say whatever they can to make you feel bad - because some people get their jollies that way. sickos. Especially if they sense that it is something you are sensitive about, they'll attack. Just FYI: Psychologists say that if someone feels bad about some aspect of their looks, it is one of the most difficult things for the person to change and feel better about. It's some kind of body dysmorphia thing and it's a formidable enemy. I wish I had better news about that. I don't think you look funny or retarded but I know that probably means nothing to you because you think you do. Uggggg. Our minds can be so cruel.
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Posted by Indie42 Jul 9th, 2012 at 1:09AM

I should hope not. I need someone with great personality along with athleticism and musical ability and smarts but that's because if he didn't have some of the same qualities I have there'd be less in common to work with. Idk.
And really, sounds like she was a bit shallow. You're probably better off without her, and I agree with Durion-- work on your self-confidence and what else you bring to the table besides looks.

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Posted by awaitingclaritytoo Jul 9th, 2012 at 1:05AM

Dude, wake up. Why did you say "a pretty cute girl"? Aren't you one among them? Did you ever try going on a date with a not-so-good looking girl? Try doing that and see how happy they are!

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Reply by jsanza29 Jul 9th, 2012 at 1:07AM

Yea the pretty girls are the shallow ones usually. See my face in the link below. Am I weird looking like people say? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UXXG66jNISg
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Reply by awaitingclaritytoo Jul 9th, 2012 at 1:09AM

don't want to see your face and make judgments. better this way! Thanks anyway
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Posted by chimbie88 Jul 9th, 2012 at 1:04AM

No... its all about your energy not your looks. "Chick dig confidence." <--- thats a quote from south park the movie. But its true. :) I need more confidence as well in my ability for girls to like me. I guess we aren't alone in that. Grats on going for it and asking though.

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Reply by jsanza29 Jul 9th, 2012 at 1:09AM

But if you're confident but as ugly as I am, it just doesn't cut it. See me in the link below. My face is extremely ugly. Confidence won't make a difference with a face like mine. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UXXG66jNISg
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Reply by chimbie88 Jul 9th, 2012 at 2:07AM

I don't understand this. You don't seem particularly ugly to me. In fact, you look normal to me. The main thing I notice is the look in your eyes, and the forlorn look of total despair you have. I thought I was ugly once too in my life, and I don't know why. I have a horrible time with girls. I don't know why I thought I was ugly. I think you fine bro, seriously. I watched the video. But I guarantee that there will be a girl that will be attracted to you. Attraction is a funny thing. Its more then looks. It happens. You never know. But that look in your eyes does tend to show others that you don't think anything of yourself. I believe that you can change that. I stand by my story. I believe confidence will absolutely make a difference with a face like yours. Your not deformed, you just hate your own face. I can say a bit more. You can't change your own face, but you can change you. One is an easy way out, and one is hard. One you can do nothing about, the other you can. But the harder path in my opinion, which is to address the way you feel about yourself, and the issues inside yourself, in my opinion is more rewarding and you will grow the most. And once you do that, your obsession about your face will fade. Because your asking questions and posting on here... maybe you wish your story wasnt true. Maybe you wish it IS true. I don't know. But I'm being honest with you. Everybody wants friends, and wants to be liked. I think that's possible for you. We all have problems, and your not alone my friend. I wish you the best of luck. :)
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Posted by Durion23 Jul 9th, 2012 at 1:02AM

Women supposedly like confidence and power. You seem like you have some confidence issues. But I can't comment on your looks.

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Reply by jsanza29 Jul 9th, 2012 at 1:10AM

Why can't you comment on my looks?
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Reply by Durion23 Jul 9th, 2012 at 1:50AM

Because I don't have much criteria in what makes men physically attractive.
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