I see nothing playful about being mean. Nothing funny about sarcasm.
Yeah. Thank you all for the help. Not to sound conceited but I am a very nice girl. I do get very nervous around him so I joke, but I now understand I should switch it an be kind. I always apologize and tell him I was kidding or put a smiley face or reply and say something nice to make him feel better. I do probably need to just tell him I like him so he knows its just some problem I have.
You can always ask the guy out
I actually love it, but it has to be very obviously playful. If I'm holding something and I drop it, and she goes "You suck!" Not that mean, but still annoying. If she were to say something like "You look like a big fuzzy monkey butt" or something, that is obviously funny, and even hotter for how gentle it is.
You might want to ask yourself why you're being mean rather than if it's ok. It's actually fairly common. Fear of rejection and/or social anxiety are keeping you from saying what you want to say, so you're mean instead. It takes a lot of courage to tell someone you like them; at least at first. Once you get over that initial fear it won't be a big deal.
we hate it... its annoying..
Yes, I am not funny when I'm sarcastic at all, it comes off as mean, and people don't like that.
Once I told my best guy friend that he was a magnificent bastard and the look I got, whola, he almost walked out of the store on me, my husband doesn't like it either, neither did my other best friend. Or anybody, I always get that horrid look from them. I was just joking, nope I've stopped joking around like that.
I win people over way quicker by being kind.
So long as you keep him aware of your lighthearted tone you should be fine.
Nope. Been doing it all my life and haven't had issues. Lol