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Does it ever bother girls that their bfs tell their friends everything?

My best friend constantly feels the need to tell me all about his relationship with his gf. I know all heir fights, when they make out, how many times they've had sex, etc. Once, he even sent me a "naughty" picture she sent him so i could better talk about it with him.
No matter how much I try to avoid talking about it, that's all he wants to talk about. And as he divulges every detail I sit back and think, would she approve of how much I know? So guys, is this a normal thing for men? and girls, how would you react to finding out that your bf's best friend knows this much?
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A gentlemen never 'kisses and tells'. Besides despite the common cultural legend 'locker room talk' is much rarer amongst males than females. Sounds like your friend is extremely insecure and is using this 'trophy talk/pictures' to try and bolster his own self-esteem. I would tell him 'bro' not that your girl isn't good looking and all, but it ain't none of my business what the two of you do. I'm here to hang out with you and do (sports, movies, etc.) not chit-chat about 'Jane'.
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Posted Jun 29th, 2009 at 3:13PM
Well, not ALL guys do it. I mean you're a guy and you recognize that its wrong so you wouldn't do it would you?

I personally refrain from 'kissing and telling' because I respect the girls im with far more than that. Even if im sharing a story online, im still being very vague about things and not naming names or going into detail.

Unfortunately though, most guys tend to feel the need to brag to their friends. My friend Austin disgusts me every time and he actually thinks anyone cares. Its like he is so attention starved that he has to let everyone know the details of everything him and his gf just did, like we are back in 7th grade or something.

Girls talk too though ;p

Im not sure if its the same as guys talk though...
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Posted Jun 29th, 2009 at 2:11PM
Boys do that....not men...

I'm well into the age category, where that doesn't happen.
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Posted Jun 29th, 2009 at 3:23PM
Girls do it too, maybe more so, who knows. It would not bother me if my bf was talking about me as I trust he would not be horrible in anyway, however I would not appreciate him showing pictures of me to his friends - that is definately to be between the two of us, privately!
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Posted Jun 29th, 2009 at 2:48PM
My boyfriend doesnt tell his best friends or friends much about what we do. Not because he doesnt want to, im sure he does, but its beacuse i dont want to. He respects that i dont like anybody knowing what im doing.
Im guessing he doesnt tell you about the nice and romantic things she does for him, just the dirty naughty things. He obviously has no respect for her, and you should tell him that what youre doing is rude, to her and you.
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Posted Jun 29th, 2009 at 1:48PM
Girls talk too, but we don't do it to brag.

This reminds me of that F.R.I.E.N.D.S episode.
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Posted Jun 29th, 2009 at 2:08PM
I agree with both Lizard King & Joule.

If your friend respected the girl(s) he was with - he wouldn't go around telling you every single so-called "detail" of their r/ship, much less send you a 'naughty pic' [that SHE sent him] to enhance your discussion of the most intimate details of the poor girl's life with the guy! If the girl in question knew, she would probably be horrified (I know I would - I'd also start to harbor revenge fantasies about my new Ex - lol)!

Have you ever thought that just maybe your friend doesn't actually get to have each and every one of the experiences he feels the need to brag about?!? Just a hunch...

In sum - as LK says, you recognise that it is wrong, so YES it would def. 'bother' girls. I hope YOU don't do it ;-)
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Posted Jun 29th, 2009 at 2:09PM
I wish my husband had a best friend to talk this stuff with. I hate when I found out through his mother, to whom, he tells our private business things. I would rather that my husband that happens to be a truck driver talk on the cb about our sexlife than his mother.

If it bothers you tell him the truth or get her phone number and do her a real favor and tell her what a little girl her boyfriend really is.
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Posted Jun 29th, 2009 at 4:43PM
Thats gross.
What a turn off .
I hope 90 % men don't do this.
The guy most probably knows this is the first and last girl he's ever going to have so bragging rights being fully availed. Tell him to make the most of it as if he hasn't already.
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Posted Jun 29th, 2009 at 6:48PM
don't girls do that?
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