it means i need you to help me in able for me to help you.
Yes, pretty much. A pop psychology way of saying, "don't be so damned hard-headed."
No. It means someone wants to help you. But what you NEED has nothing to do with it -- only you know what you need. It does not make sense to say, "She needs to..." etc., because we can't jump inside someone's soul and know what that person needs. <br />
I'd like to kick that phrase out of the universe.