Does your friend talk about their crush ALL the time? How do you cope?
My best friend talks about this guy she likes all the time. There's not really any other topic of discussion except for him. It's okay but I feel drained by it. Unfortunately he is not into her but she wants him so bad ;(
She discusses everything that happens between them. Conversations etc. I feel guilty for feeling this way, but any advice I give falls on deaf ears anyways is there any point of me talking about it with her :/
Are you in a similar situation where anything you say is just useless. How do you deal with it? We're just going round and round in circles and it's going nowhere. She even knows it but still..... Arrrghhh...
4 Answers to "Does your friend talk about their crush ALL the time? How do you cope?"
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I know how you feel. I have this friend who talks about this guy she likes so much like every single time. And it was okay but if they refuse to listen to your advices when they're asking for one then maybe its about time to stop talking and just listen until they get tired of discussing repetitive topics.
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You'll have to say t likes this, "Listen...I know you really do like him but I care about your well being and I don't think it will work out. I am your best friend and I don't want to see you get hurt."
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i had a friend that could not get over a break up (this was like 10 years ago), and we just stopped inviting her out with the group for like a month, and when she'd called, we'd ignore her calls. It was interesting to see what order she'd call us in... showed who she liked the best. I eventually told her the truth and said that is what happens when everything is about you. She definitely got better after that.
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Posted by expo67 Mar 3rd, 2013 at 1:34PM
Change the subject. If she refuses to change it, wait a polite amount of time, get up and go to the john or into the kitchen or wherever on the pretext of doing something. Then come back and before you sit down, say you have to be somewhere or do something. Then make yourself scarce for the next few weeks. If she asks you about where you've been, tell her as nicely as you can that there's gotta be a time limit on the bf talk because a friendship is a two-way street and you're not feeling very listened to. But do it in a calm, respectful way. If she listens and tries to change, she's a friend. If not, you might have to decide about how often you want to see her or if you want to see her again at all.
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