EP, I'm not good at meeting guys for the first time- I shake a bit and forget what to say. Any advice on calming down?
I'm fine if I've seen someone at least a few times- unless I really like them, and then the shaking and such will continue a few times more :/.
I have been more outgoing in college, and even started a club and started talking more in classes. I talk to people at church.
Please don't say, "Just be yourself". I AM myself, it's the nerves I need trouble soothing!
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Posted by wanderingsage Sep 8th, 2012 at 7:34AM
Learn to breathe properly and can use the full breathe
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Reply by LonexWolf Sep 8th, 2012 at 12:52PM
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Posted by deltadon Sep 8th, 2012 at 7:10AM
practice...........start small with the weather & such.......people aren't that scary .......most of em are nervous too
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Posted by NotBackingDown Sep 8th, 2012 at 7:09AM
Not be yourself/ Be civilized when you first meet someone . Like do what a polite person would do. Slowly the yourself side will come out as you get more comfortable
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Posted by abstraction Sep 8th, 2012 at 7:15AM
Remember second contact with this girl at uni, and I stood there with nothing to say, feeling like an idiot. Couldn't think of a single thing to say, like the whole universe was void of conversation topics. I had just turned 19. I guess it was ok, because we're still together.
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Reply by LonexWolf Oct 27th, 2012 at 3:57PM
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Reply by abstraction Oct 27th, 2012 at 4:32PM
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Posted by plungesponge Sep 8th, 2012 at 7:13AM
For your fears, just ask yourself "and then what?". So you meet a new person...and then what? You could say something stupid...and then what? They could laugh at you...and then what? You could be embarrassed....and then what? They could see you shaking...and then what? Most often you'll find your mind has blown fear out of all proportion to anything that matters.
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Posted by KnightOfJustice Sep 8th, 2012 at 7:04AM
I'm the same way with girls, my advice would be to just try to clear your mind and breathe, relax and gather your thoughts. Even practice with a friend or to a mirror what you want to say, being prepared could never hurt.
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