marriage has been known to ruin many relationships
Hey that's not going to help this poor guy...be more considerate!
my marriage was good then went bad, its a crap shot with other people, you dont know until you know
I prefer to call them "life lessons." Hard to predict but for some people, the minute the rings are on, the hell begins.
That's what happened to me to. It was definitely a mistake to get married
Unfortunately it didn't take long to realize it, I just didn't do anything about it because I thought things would get better through time...it didn't...it got worse. Now a divorce would put me in the poor house so now I just have to live with it. Generally marriage is a bad thing for the one who is expected to make the most money. It's just too bad I know that now and not when I decided to get married.
Same here, I'm the one doing everything...and it's making me sick. I think aftger a while the one making the least knows they will make the most in a divorce so they figure they can take advantage of you. I just want everything to be ok to...20 years worth...but it won't be. She's a totally different person than I married...I want what I married not her!
you sure did purdy girl
im sorry to say hun but I think you have answered your own question there.
yes a very big one.
Not necessarily. Marriage takes even more work than a relationship. Work harder.
Maybe he's just trying to adjust to married life?
Maybe you did. You might be another one of those people that were not meant to marry or marry yet.
Your story is as tragic as it is common and doubly so when kids are involved, and I can relate. It's true that marriage takes A LOT of work, but I'm sure you could put your head through a wall with enough work, but are you really better off for it? I wish you the best of luck.
you might not have made a mistake; you may have both gotten married thinking that you're home free now, no need to spice things up anymore. But marriage takes effort and hard work to keep it alive, and it's not uncommon for couples to take each other for granted or assume they don't have to do what they did before to woo each other. You both need to set time aside for the both of you to just relax and focus on your relationship.
Have you discussed this with your husband?
We don't know anything about your marriage.
How long were you friends before you started dating ?
Hmmm...that's a tough one to answer. Since you knew each other and dated previously what has changed about yourself that seems to be causing the riff ? The time away from each other seems to be the deciding factor. How long did you date after you reunited ?
Co-dependant relationships are poisonous. You need to find a happy medium in your relationship from the sounds of it. Working together to better the cause instead of relegating tasks on one another would be a good start.
Like I stated before, co-dependent relationships are poison. Either you find common ground or end it. You will only make yourself miserable and the child will suffer the most. You have some tough choices to make in the very near future.
Not enough Information.
You say you Love each other but Love isn't enough. Your just Comforting yourself. If you Really love each other you wouldn't be constantly Hurting each other. It isn't that Love isn't enough ,you just don't Love each other Enough. Often people that have been together a long time just stay together for Convenience,or because they are insecure and afraid they can't find anyone else. All marriages have difficulties,but not constantly. You Marry to be HAPPY ,not to be Miserable,but it takes guts to Leave.Some people stay together Miserably their whole Lives.It depends on what KIND of life you want. Good Luck. :)
It sometimes feels that way, marriage is hard. Have you tried counseling?
You definitely need an impartial counselor not a family member. She sounds like she has "control" issues and you will not be able to change her. Sounds like you guys are doing the "*** for tat" blaming each other and putting eachother down, that will not get better on it's own. It can work but you have to seek professinal help. Not everyone's marriage goes through a honeymoon stage unfortunately but that doesn't mean you cannot have that later when you start resloving your problems and start appreciating each other.
What is worse about it?