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Ever wonder why individuals betray each other?
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There is such a thing that noone believes in and that is male menopause as well as menopause in women. In menopause we tend to take our mortality more serious than ever before. To some that can be very scary and others it can be easily accepted. At this point we look at our age and realize we are getting old and life is passing us by quickly. The question that comes more to mind is "What have I done with my life?" We may be in a marriage that is not as romantic as we wish it could be, we may have 3 children and they have kept us so busy that we have not been able to keep up our looks or figures. Whatever the case we feel unloved and begin to think that a new life is what we need to keep us young and viberant. Some men and women leave the relationships that they have had for years to look for a younger partner that will make them feel good about themselves again. They think"THE GRASS IS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE". I ISNT!!!!! In time they may or may not come out of their trance and return to their old lives because simplicity is best or they may cut all ties only to end in divorce or worse. MEN have a tendency to take divorce harder than women and some can turn to SUISIDE. Some people return home never to be let into the bedroom again but feel content.
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Posted Aug 28th, 2008 at 7:28PM
I believe that anyone who has been cheated on, whether it be male or female, has wondered this. I have known those who have cheated on their loved ones, in the end they all said the same thing, "I really don't know why I did it."
I believe in their hearts they do, but for each one it is different. Whether running from something at home or self, or running to something liek a dangled renewing of youth. Either way, the devastation it creates and causes is horrendous.
I truly believe, if you are tempted to seriously cheat, leave first, don't make the pretense of the other not knowing, or it is only going to be once. There is a problem when someone is temoted to cheat, so either fix the problem first, or get out!
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Posted Aug 26th, 2008 at 9:51PM
Oh, believe me, I've thought about this one quite a bit!

The only reason I've come up with why someone would intentionally do something they know would break the heart of the person they claim to love is selfishness... The mentality that what I want/need/feel is more important that anything or anybody.

I think they don't even realize they are that way. I think they think they're good, decent people. But whatever they tell themselves, there must be an inkling somewhere deep in their minds that they've done the unthinkable. They've broken the most sacred and important bond in their lives. They've hurt the most important person in the world. Even if they've "fallen out of love" they've still broken the ultimate promise.

Cheaters are... pathetic.
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Posted Aug 27th, 2008 at 4:34AM
Yes, I've thought about it because I've been cheated on in the past.

If you are considering cheating or otherwise betraying someone, at least have the dencency to break up with them first!
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Posted Aug 27th, 2008 at 7:23AM
Because people have no honesty, no loyalty, no honor, they don't care, they can't behave, they have no standard, selfish... etc I have a lot more.
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Posted Aug 27th, 2008 at 11:31AM
All the time and I do not have an answer and if I did I dont think I wuld like it

Tom
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Posted Aug 27th, 2008 at 5:02PM
i often wonder if some people are just born without certain "feelings" or the capacity to feel - otherwise - that would mean that this type of coldness or lack of concern of others is a learned behavior - and if it is learned - how do you turn off your feelings?
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Posted Aug 28th, 2008 at 3:46PM
Fear, carelessness, and boredom.
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Posted Aug 29th, 2008 at 4:04AM
The answer to this question, in my understanding, is complex and would need a lot of explanation to make it fuly understandable... But there can be two ways to look at this:
(1) Betrayal is due to returning "unfinished business" (karma) between the two involved. And what transpires may make more karma for one or both, or it may discharge the karma due to them having experienced it.
(2) Betrayal may be due to a personality demon taking hold of the betrayer. These "demons" are personality programs that the person has accumulated "along the way" in life, and some specific trigger causes them to activate and come up into the conscious level. If the person is aware, they can rid themselves of such a thing before it does, or continues to do damage.

In each case - unless they are very aware of the real reason why this is taking place, the betrayer will often be at a loss to explain why they did it.

So in the end, it is the part of compassion not to blame such an one; they are not the "only players" in the scenario; and if you don't understand what is happening, you've got little likelihood of dealing properly with it - you can only try to suppress it, which has its own problems, and in any event doesn't get rid of the demon...

There is a third scenario that I've just thought of: it is that the betrayer is a "helper in disguise", who has played a part for you of the "villain", to set up a circumstance as a test to prove that you can transcend the situation gracefully, without being left in pieces. As you may realise, such a test would not be valid if it did not appear real; but it is a great service to you as a Universe Being if you manage to transcend, and would deepen your understanding of Life and strengthen your ability to BE that which you truly are, in physical form.

I understand if these answers make furious those who have experienced betrayal; but truly, there is a "bright side" to all adversity - the best you can do is smile and be as light-hearted as possible - which is easier to do if you understand what is going on, despite the discomfort.
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