The truth of the matter is people that do not suffer from depression have no clue on what it's like. You cannot just pull yourself up and carry on like they think. I know how you feel..I stay away from loved ones who do not understand when I'm "on the dark side" as I call it. It only bothers them that they cannot help and ****** me off that they try!

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Your mom loves you and don't want to see you hurting. And like others they feel helpless in finding you out of your darkness. She is taking out her fustration on you - plus she might be a bit old school thinking if you put someone down enough they'll change - and for the most part we have all discovered that is a lie. Allow her to love you and love yourself. It is okay to be depressed just don't get lost in it.

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My best friend always makes me feel guilty for being easily depressed. She tells me "So I can't make you happy?" as if it's her fault or something.. I just pretend to be happy around her now. If it's a really bad day I just tell her I'm busy and I stay home instead.

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She didn't say it to hurt or negate your feelings. Mothers feel like they should be able to make it better when their children are hurting. She frustrated with her inability to help. <br />
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Crying from depression is no more about expressing yourself, than crying because you broke your arm. The crying is a symptom of the depression; nothing more. <br />
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It is easy to feel guilty about being depressed; i spent a lot of years there. This guilt comes from well intentioned people telling us, a) it is all in our heads, and b) just buck up and deal with it. This is the equivalent of telling someone with brain cancer that it is all in their head and all they need to do is think positive thoughts and it will go away. There well intentioned platitudes are wishful thinking that hurts and kills.<br />
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Chronic severe depression has biological roots. It is a medical condition that requires medical intervention. Try contacting the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI.com). They have free classes and support groups. Tell your mom about them. They have a free Family to Family class that teaches the family and friends of those suffering from depression and other mental illness how to help their loved ones. There web site also has a wealth of information and the latest research.<br />
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Good luck.

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First: no one can "make you feel guilty" without you consent.<br />
Second - your mother feels miserable and hence she doesn't know and is not capable of offering your much help.<br />
Can you make yourself feel a little bit better on your own?

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no

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You are allowed to express yourself. I hope you can find a place where you don't need to have people tell you they're tired of hearing you cry. I'm sorry your mother is so insensitive and thinks she has to find a way to fix you. She is your mom, I realize, but maybe she will come to understand that no one can solve your depression except you, with the support of loving family, friends and perhaps trained professionals.

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She's telling you she thinks you need help. Which, you probably do. Depression is depressing to be around and everyone around you suffers from your inability to seek help.<br />
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Experience.

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I've gotten help, a therapist and medication to boot. Nothing is helping. But I've also had to deal with her depression for many years and I've never been allowed to say one word about it.

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If the medication isn't working then you need to change prescriptions.

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I've had it changed 6 times

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I don't know how to help you, sometimes we have to cut ties with toxic people. Once I turned eighteen I never saw my mom again, that improved my life quite a bit.

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