Resolved Question

Forgiveness and dutifulness as two magnets which repel each other. Do you agree ?

When a person wants to be forgiving and ignoring towards the fault of others, his or her weak innerself then lies in wait for expecting the same from others. When he or she does not get get this in return, then they start loosing any motivation to carry on being forgiving towards others. Similarly, when a person behaves dutiful and commited towards people, they then start expecting the same from them and when they do not see this happening, they begin to loose motivation to be sincere and committed in their relationship with people. If they would had chosen to be forgiving and lenient towards people accompanied by being dutiful and committed towards them at the same time, they would had then got an opportunity to grow as a human being. The growth of a person starts stagnating, the moment he or she starts expecting more than that they have given to a any relationship. The prime reason why giving is difficult is that FORGIVENESS and DUTIFULNESS are like two magnets which repel each other. The ability to strike a balance between the two is a stepping stone of personal growth. How do you perceive this ?F

Yes I agree that this happens. But true altruism is caring for people and not expecting anything in return- and in this case, it includes forgiving people and not expecting forgiveness back. We must be able to act in the world and give without ever expecting anything back. This is probably the number one important lesson to learn that school doesn't teach. Don't wait til midlife to realize the truth of this!