Found out I am being laid off and I meed a major operation in the space of one week. Where are my friends?
They express some concern but I do not hear from them now. If one one of them were in such a crisis, I would be checking on them every few days and trying to help - even if it was nothing but an encouraging word. Perhaps I expect too much of them. I do know that I am the one they call when they have a crisis and I have always been there. I supposed the saying about how you find out who your true friends are when you have major trouble is true. It makes me even sadder than I am even poorer than an unemployed sick person with no health insurance - I actually have no one to really care about what happens to me. I don't want anything from them but support. I have never asked them for anything so I don't know why they seem to avoid me.
5 Answers to "Found out I am being laid off and I meed a major operation in the space of one week. Where are my friends?"
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Friends only come around for the good times. When you're in trouble or you need them, they're nowhere to be found. Get used to it.
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But are those actually friends? I thought friends were there in good and bad times - that is what makes them friends.
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There are no such things as 'friends'. Just people that use you then kick you to the curb when they've gotten everything they can from you.
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I care. And I bet you others on here care too. Pamper yourself. Love yourself. And be patient. Maybe your friends will come after all (maybe they don't want to embarrass you, or disturb you).
And if finally you find out that they ain't worth it, thank your lucky stars that you know it now (and not at 90!)
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thank you, sweet lady
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I'm sorry :( what about your family? Too bad you don't live in Canada; you can do your operation without worrying about money. Hugs
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If you're the one that usually does all the calling, the role aren't likely to shift smoothly... some may help if you talk to them about it. Many just don't know what to do... especially if they've never been in the "carer" role. Some may just need some specific prompting...which may be hard to ask for on your part...but you might be helped by being direct..and asking for things you know they can do for you specifically.
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I don't wanty anything from them - and I think they should know that because I never ask for anything. I am the one giving all the time. THat is probably the problem. THe one time I nee something that is free and easy to give if you care about someone, they are not there.
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You can't assume it's out of not caring though. People don't automatically know what you need. You have to find a way of expressing it to those you care for...before giving up on them.
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Posted by lederman 1 Mar 17th, 2013 at 11:27AM
i went thru the same thing, i had two major hip surgeries, and people would hardly come to the hospital to see me, i was in a resort and later lost my job over my surgeries, my own nieces wouldnt call me and later when one had a batzmitbah after months of her not calling me to check on me i decided not to go to it, i hardly got visitors when i was in the hospital, had a therapy dog visit me when i was having my surgeries, even when i left the hospital and rehab people still would hardly visit me, after i left my job i had a knee surgery too and was sent home the same day and had noone in my apartment all night, ive done some para aide subbing but the schools hardly call me, i filled out some online applications with employment agencies and now one is interested in me cause im bilingual, so im going to talk to them on tuesday, i didnt have health ins when i had my hip surgeries, i went thru an indigent care program and by the time i got my knee surgery i was out of work so medicaid picked up on that one
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