Friends and lovers OK with him, but he's not in love with me. Nor does he want a commitment. Keep/dump deep?
We've known each other almost 2 years. Neither of us has dated anyone else the whole time. He's expressed his no-commitment rule bluntly. He doesn't want "dependents", i.e my son & myself. I recently left because it's come down to we're friends & lovers or just friends in which it's phone calls only.
Problem: He doesn't love me-I'd say "I do!" in a heartbeat. Advice?
5 Answers to "Friends and lovers OK with him, but he's not in love with me. Nor does he want a commitment. Keep/dump deep?"
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I hate to be blunt ,But stop wasting your time,and start looking for a future.
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That's why I left. It's been 2 weeks.
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if you stay, you will most likely only hurt you because you seem to want more and he does not.
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Are you wanting someone to point out the obvious? It's your decision to settle for his arrangement or look for someone who fills all your needs.
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I'm good with looking. Settling doesn't exist for me.
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Then you've answered your question.
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Move on girl. Why would you even consider saying I do when he told you he doesn't? Are you going to be one of those woman who wait and wait and wait because you are sure he will change his selfish mind? I hope not. You deserve to be loved and cherished and wanted ( not just intimately). He has different definition of love than you do I think.
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Wait?? Who's got time for that? I've moved on-I just haven't recuperated yet.
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" -I'd say "I do!" in a heartbeat" Is that some new trendy way of moving on that I am not aware of?
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Best Answer (Chosen By Asker):
Posted by UniverseInsideU May 6th, 2012 at 7:45PM
It is very hard to love someone who doesn't love you back, and painful to leave. He obviously doesn't love you (which is hard to hear), but from your post it is clear. You said you have a son and I would say--don't let your son be exposed to an un-loving relationship either. Once you get away from this man, you will open your world and heart. You will be free to love and to receive love--the right of every human being.
I wish you the very best and strength to move forward.
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