At my age it's the only way to go. I don't want to limit myself to women who have the same socio-economic stock portfolio or real estate equity that I have which ain't that much. I'd rather be with whoever rocks my world, not whoever is an equitable money-match. Marriage is a contract that gives or takes half of what you both have when you divorce or all of what the other has when someone dies. You can have a prenup, but then why bother getting married in the first place? Marriage is highly overrated unless you're a gold digger or a stay-at-home mother. Her kids can keep her assets, I have no right to them just because we want to be lovers.
Married people intend to be together forever but there's a 50% divorce rate. Married people usually say their spouse is also their best friend. There are two types of relationships: FWB and SWB (Strangers With Benefits). I was married to a woman who decided once a week sex was all she was obligated to provide. I could have divorced her and married someone who matched my libido of needing to have sex every day. But we bought a house together and made this gol-darn commitment and had a big expensive party and told everyone this was 'forever'. With FWB, you just say, hey, this isn't working for me. Adios amiga.
I was tricked. She was a single mother who needed a surrogate father for her kids and a way to improve her standard of living. She pretended to be a nympho and I was a naive virgin. Shortly after the wedding she stopped pretending to enjoy sex and started in with 'are you done yet?' I almost got married a few times after that but always came to my senses before it was too late. I have trust issues and FWB doesn't set anything in stone unless someone has AIDS or herpes or some other incurable STD that they fail to mention.
I would think, it's a soul-less arrangement.
I can understand. While I'd rather have a committed relationship, sometimes just want to be free of entanglements while having certain needs met. I don't know
But what if the.. ummm? But what about? I guess I'm tryig to be diplomatic in my anwer. My views used to be much more rigid, but life just isn't always that simple.
So what would you do if there was someone you really liked and they wanted a FWB type thing?
I admire that. Good to know there are still people in the world who think that way. Society around here, you see FWB everywhere, and for a person who believes in marriage and commitment- they are as dinosaurs. The whole notion of FWB used to nauseate me, but as it's so prevalent, I have to try not too judge too harshly, as people who make mistakes are still people. That's what I meant by being diplomatic
someone is going to get hurt.
Never turns out well .......
FWB means? -ok im an idiot.
For many they start that way and then some fall in love and stick together
"Friends with benefits kinda relationship", like all those sexual relationships, is a privilege and it's up to the pla<x>yers. As long as they know their games, there is nothing I am against them.
Works for me
BEST RELATIONSHIP EVER!!!