Going for coffee with my crush...yes or no? it's complicated...read on..

Asked By: Aurora2010 26-30, F 10 months ago

my boyf and i just got back together after a 2 month break up. we broke up because i developed a huge crush/obsession on a guy. it became obvious that my crush was not interested in me. now my boyf and i are back together and i told him about the guy who i had a crush on and still like. the guy has asked me to coffee and im pretty sure it's strictly platonic on his part, and on mine too. but im still attracted to him, he's incredibly HOT and has personality, career etc. i told my boyf about the coffee and he's ok with it....should i go for coffee?

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Posted by Illiteratetroll Jul 16th, 2012 at 3:02PM

Sounds like you're looking for trouble to me.

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Posted by crepesaredelicious Jul 16th, 2012 at 3:18PM

it depends. how good really is this guy? is he better then your boyfriend? if not, maybe you should skip that coffee.

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Posted by BlogDog Jul 16th, 2012 at 3:18PM

Yes, go for coffee with your crush. Why? Because you can't know how it will turn out unless you take the chance. Who knows? He might want to date you if he likes how the date goes.

However, I'd suggest that you drop your current boyfriend pronto and forget that you ever got back together with him. You're not really into him anyway. You're only using him as a crutch until you find the guy you truly want. Trust me, it's best to burn your bridges in love as you cross them.

No man in his right mind will go out with a woman who is still dating someone. If he's interested in you, he'll ask if you're seeing anyone. What will you answer? If you say "I just got back together with my ex," your crush will lose all interest in you. If you lie, is that how you want your new relationship to start - with a lie?

Drop your ex and give yourself time to get over him so that you can be emotionally available for your next partner, maybe this new crush of yours?

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Posted by katfoust14 Jul 16th, 2012 at 3:07PM

Don't do it!

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Posted by scarllettt Jul 16th, 2012 at 3:04PM

You said it's "scrictly plantonic, on his part, and on mine too, BUT I'M STILL ATTRACTED TO HIM." Huh? So, it is NOT strictly platonic on your part and you are just asking for trouble, in my humble opinion. If it is just plantonic on his part, you will only feel rejected and more miserable...You may not admit it to yourself, but you want more with this guy.

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