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Guy likes me & flirts and doesn't know I have a boyfriend. It's bothering me but I'm not exactly sure what to do. Help?

I have absolutely NO feelings for this guy and would never even have thought about talking to him before he talked to me. I feel rude if I don't acknowledge him though.

He didn't TELL me he likes me but it's honestly very obvious. He's acting like a first grader who likes a girl who ate glue with him at school. Today was the first time I actually had a conversation with him and I absolutely hated it. I was nervous because I didn't like the position I was in at all! So I felt really dizzy and sweaty and got red. I told him I feel weird and he said "It's because of the awesome connection between us." and me not knowing what to say just laughed.

He constantly asked me if I wanted a hug and NO I DO NOT WANT A HUG! I don't know how or where in this conversation to say, "Hey dude I've got a boyfriend." and it'd be awkward if I did it in the middle of all this.

So I'm really not looking forward to school now because of this.

Someone please tell me what to do; this is unbearable for me.

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13 Answers to "Guy likes me & flirts and doesn't know I have a boyfriend. It's bothering me but I'm not exactly sure what to do. Help?"

  1. Man01 - 31-35 years old

    Posted by Man01 Jan 1st, 2013 at 11:26AM

    Plain and Simple, the next time you see him, say how you and your boyfriend had a great time hanging out last night and how you are so lucky to have a guy as sweet as him. If he does not get a clue after that then that is when you could start doing the things that the other posters are telling you to do.

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  2. benetal - 70+ years old

    Posted by benetal Dec 3rd, 2012 at 8:54PM

    Dear,you must learn to speak up in life.Tell him pleasantly, you are not available. If he doesn't back off immediately,have your boyfriend tell him you are not available.

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  3. JuPeach - 13-15 years old - female

    Reply by JuPeach Dec 3rd, 2012 at 8:54PM

    It would be so much easier if my boyfriend went to school with me. Since he doesn't, nobody knows he exists.

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  4. JuPeach - 13-15 years old - female

    Reply by JuPeach Dec 3rd, 2012 at 8:55PM

    I know I have to learn to speak up but I've ALWAYS asked people to ask/tell others stuff for me because I'm nervous about reactions.

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  5. violet1698 - 26-30 years old - female

    Posted by violet1698 Dec 3rd, 2012 at 8:43PM

    just tell him, it will look like you are leading him on if you don't tell him the truth.

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  6. JuPeach - 13-15 years old - female

    Reply by JuPeach Dec 3rd, 2012 at 8:47PM

    True I'm just scared of hurting his feelings.

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  7. hitoribochi89 - 22-25 years old - female

    Posted by hitoribochi89 Dec 3rd, 2012 at 8:48PM

    There's never really a good timing, so the first thing you do when you see him next is go "Let me just break it down for ya, I got a boyfriend so you best be moving along" and, walk away. Awkwardness *poof*

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  8. JuPeach - 13-15 years old - female

    Reply by JuPeach Dec 3rd, 2012 at 8:52PM

    I feel like the awkwardness would be worse if I did that! lol

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  9. hitoribochi89 - female

    Reply by hitoribochi89 Dec 3rd, 2012 at 8:55PM

    lol nah your just over thinking it! look, he'll actually use his brains and leave you alone which would be way better right? :)

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  10. Vessa - 41-45 years old - female

    Posted by Vessa Dec 3rd, 2012 at 8:45PM

    That's kind of silly. Why has the cat got your tongue about your boyfriend.
    ANY point in the conversation would be fine...."No...I don't hug any guys other than my boyfriend." "Nice to see you...do you know my boyfriend, _________?" When he compliments you, say, "Yeah, my boyfriend likes that too." Or better yet, say, "Did you go to the game last night? I went with my boyfriend. It was fun wasn't it?"
    Pretend you have no idea that he likes you. And just let him know. There are a zillion ways. But if you don't let the poor guy know, you are probably going to end up having to hurt his feelings and embarrassing him. Don't do that. Don't wait.

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  11. JuPeach - 13-15 years old - female

    Reply by JuPeach Dec 3rd, 2012 at 8:47PM

    My boyfriend goes to a different school so he wouldn't know him but I didn't think about the things you said! I'll probably end up using one such as those ones. I feel like I'll embarrass him either way though and I feel bad about it.

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  12. Vessa - 41-45 years old - female

    Reply by Vessa Dec 3rd, 2012 at 8:51PM

    It's better to do it now than later. It'll be practice for when you're married and someone hits on you. lol

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  13. hlkhw - 22-25 years old - female

    Posted by hlkhw Dec 3rd, 2012 at 8:43PM

    Be blunt, don't worry about awkwardness. Just say you're not digging the vibe and walk away.

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  14. JuPeach - 13-15 years old - female

    Reply by JuPeach Dec 3rd, 2012 at 8:48PM

    I'll try; I've never been put in this position before though. Most people KNOW about my boyfriend.. :S

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  15. hlkhw - 22-25 years old - female

    Reply by hlkhw Dec 3rd, 2012 at 8:49PM

    Have you considered the possibility that he's doing it to watch you respond with nervousness and not because he likes you?

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  16. Zenyatta2010 - 13-15 years old

    Posted by Zenyatta2010 Mar 4th, 2013 at 7:14PM

    SIMPLE...


    "umm....dont get me wrong, but you seem like your flirting, and just so you know I have a boyfriend."

    then he would say something like "oh, im sorry. i didnt know."

    then YOU say "haha yeah he wouldnt be too happy if he knew I was talking to someone that was flirting with me."




    So yeah...just tell him you have a BF. It doesnt matter if its right in the middle of a Conversation,etc. When he starts flirting or says he wants a hug, tell him you have a BF.

    Whats so hard???? NOTHING- Your just a little nervous, perhaps shy? =)

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  17. magicdust - 31-35 years old - female

    Posted by magicdust Feb 7th, 2013 at 11:41PM

    You already know what to do.

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  18. Gray51 - 51-55 years old - female

    Posted by Gray51 Dec 3rd, 2012 at 9:12PM

    Since you can't tell him to bug off, do you think that you might like the attention coming from him?

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  19. JuPeach - 13-15 years old - female

    Reply by JuPeach Dec 3rd, 2012 at 9:17PM

    No I know for a fact I don't like it. Usually I do like attention, and I like to feel attractive by knowing they find me attractive but not in a way that they want to act on it. :l I am stressing over it a lot and I don't want to go to sleep because I have to wake up and go to school for this...

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  20. Kayakker - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by Kayakker Dec 3rd, 2012 at 8:43PM

    Tell him the truth best option...

    HEY DUDE BACK OFF I'M IN A RELATIONSHIP... BUT YOUR CUTE KEEP TRYING...:p

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  21. JuPeach - 13-15 years old - female

    Reply by JuPeach Dec 3rd, 2012 at 8:48PM

    It's easier for me to say stuff like that online rather than in person. D: I have forced niceness in person.

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  22. Kayakker - 46-50 years old - male

    Reply by Kayakker Dec 3rd, 2012 at 8:55PM

    K.. maybe get ya friend to tell him... he needs to know or you'll have 2 bf's and 2 xmas gifts lol...

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  23. grayday104 - 22-25 years old - male

    Posted by grayday104 Dec 3rd, 2012 at 8:42PM

    Just brush it off

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  24. JuPeach - 13-15 years old - female

    Reply by JuPeach Dec 3rd, 2012 at 8:45PM

    But I hate talking to him so much it's hard to brush off. :S Because I know it's going to happen tomorrow and the rest of the week. He like chased me out of school to wave goodbye to me (I would know because I'M the one the ran away).

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  25. grayday104 - male

    Reply by grayday104 Dec 3rd, 2012 at 8:46PM

    Well if the guy isn't taking a hint I suggest you block him

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  26. BlackToad - 36-40 years old - male

    Posted by BlackToad Dec 3rd, 2012 at 8:42PM

    Take out your phone and say your bf just texted you ir something. Let him down easy.

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  27. JuPeach - 13-15 years old - female

    Reply by JuPeach Dec 3rd, 2012 at 8:44PM

    We can't take our phones out in class. He kept me from doing my work in math as well. :l I mean I wear my boyfriend's t-shirts to school hoping he'll notice but to him I guess it's just a big t-shirt. :l

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  28. BlackToad - 36-40 years old - male

    Reply by BlackToad Dec 3rd, 2012 at 8:47PM

    Idk... out of ideas.

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  29. wolflionheart - 36-40 years old - male

    Posted by wolflionheart Dec 3rd, 2012 at 8:42PM

    tell him to knock it off ... if its online block him, if its live, ignore him and dont let him flirt

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  30. JuPeach - 13-15 years old - female

    Reply by JuPeach Dec 3rd, 2012 at 8:44PM

    It's hard because I don't like to be mean to people and he got up and sat next to me in class. I couldn't just say "HEY MOVE." lol...

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  31. wolflionheart - 36-40 years old - male

    Reply by wolflionheart Dec 3rd, 2012 at 8:46PM

    well if nobody is gonna do it for you then yeah youre gonna have to be upfront ... tell him you dont want him, you dont like him flirting with you, and you are taken ... if he refuses to listen, then be mean

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