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Guys: what's the best way for your girl to initiate intimacy? My bf complains that I don't do this but I don't know how.

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14 Answers to "Guys: what's the best way for your girl to initiate intimacy? My bf complains that I don't do this but I don't know how."

  1. ralphelison - 51-55 years old - male

    Posted by ralphelison Nov 21st, 2011 at 6:01PM

    this question always amazes me, since most guys never say no to intimacy, whereas women are more likely to. So the risk to you of trying and having him say no is very low.

    The best way depends on the guy and how well you know him, and what he may fantasize about.

    I came home one time and my wife had lit little votive lamps and made a path between them sprinkled with roses through our house out in to the back yard where she lay on a blanket wearing a silky nightie.

    That's one idea - but I'm sure the rest of the members have lots of other ideas.

    If you're really "dangerbabe," then embrace the danger and take the iniative. What do you have to lose?

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  2. dangerbabe - 26-30 years old - female

    Reply by dangerbabe Nov 21st, 2011 at 6:09PM

    It's not like he will say no, it's just that he is annoyed that he always initiates sex, and feels like because of that that I'm not interested, but that's not true.

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  3. ralphelison - 51-55 years old - male

    Reply by ralphelison Nov 21st, 2011 at 6:16PM

    well if you don't show interest, how does he know you are? A LOT of women go along with sex because they care for and want to please their lover. If he's ALWAYS initiating, then it's very one-sided. You need need to initiate.

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  4. NurseC - 18-21 years old - female

    Posted by NurseC Jan 27th, 2013 at 3:56PM

    When I was with my last bf, I only had to remove my work uniform while my bedroom door was open and he'd be in and on me.

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  5. kidkeith - 51-55 years old - male

    Posted by kidkeith Nov 21st, 2011 at 5:59PM

    dress up in a really short skirt with no panties and cook him supper, then after he eats, drop a spoon in front of him and see what happens

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  6. Nimbus007 - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by Nimbus007 Nov 21st, 2011 at 5:58PM

    A beer or three usually does it.

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  7. northguy - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by northguy Nov 21st, 2011 at 7:31PM

    My wife never initiating intimacy killed our marriage. I just didn't feel loved, or wanted, or even as if she cared to take the time for me. Just sit on the couch next to him and kiss the sh*t out of him. Do whatever; he won't mind. He just needs you to make the effort so that he will feel that you want him and love him.

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  8. atadir - 51-55 years old - male

    Posted by atadir Nov 21st, 2011 at 6:47PM

    Don't worry about it. What he really means is that he needs to know that you want him.

    Not that I've actually followed my own advice, but here's what I'll suggest:

    Look up a book called "101 Nights of Great Sex" on Amazon. It's got 101 different fantasies you can live out together.

    '"Is your sex life perfect?" challenges Laura Corn in the introduction to her delightful and unique 101 Nights of Grrreat Sex. If the title, with its guarantee of "grrreat sex twice a week, every week, for one full year!" won't tempt you, the packaging will.'

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  9. Wallygator64 - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by Wallygator64 Nov 21st, 2011 at 6:28PM

    Cook and serve him dinner wearing only an apron and high heels......and a smile.......make him wait for it though.

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  10. Firegod74 - 31-35 years old - male

    Posted by Firegod74 Nov 21st, 2011 at 6:27PM

    Grab his johnson.

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  11. cedricsmom - 36-40 years old - female

    Posted by cedricsmom Nov 21st, 2011 at 6:25PM

    Well, I just kiss him very passionately. And if he shows signs of thinking it's nothing more than a kiss, I do it again.

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  12. highlyunlikely - 36-40 years old - female

    Posted by highlyunlikely Nov 21st, 2011 at 6:23PM

    Walk up behind him, wrap your arms around him and kiss him on the neck.

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  13. minatek616 - 22-25 years old - male

    Posted by minatek616 Nov 21st, 2011 at 6:14PM

    when he is sitting watching tv or whatever, just kneel in front of him, spread his knees unzip his pants and get to work

    if you ask nicely I would consider being your practice buddy

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  14. pixelbest - 46-50 years old - female

    Posted by pixelbest Nov 21st, 2011 at 6:06PM

    I am no longer with my husband, so maybe it is wrong, but why beat about the bush, I would tell him I was horny and place a hand on his crotch.

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  15. angelinafreckle - 36-40 years old - female

    Posted by angelinafreckle Nov 21st, 2011 at 5:58PM

    Shame ... read more

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  16. TheOneyouwerewarnedabout - 70+ years old

    Posted by TheOneyouwerewarnedabout Nov 21st, 2011 at 5:57PM

    draw you a picture or what?. shake dat a ss :)

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