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Why do guys blow hot and cold like this??? Is it really just like flipping a switch between interest and apathy?
ashplowe ashplowe 26-30, F 11 Answers Feb 19, 2012

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a whole weekend? is that suppose to be a challenge? Either we're bored and/or have other prospects

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if she was expecting to hear from me, i wouldn't leave her hanging without some kind of warning or explanation.

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If I was busy and had previous plans.. I would tell them I am not calling.. camping and such

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I would have to be absolutely gutted with a partner to do that even then I would most likely txt

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I'm not a guy...but I've written on here before. Maybe he is moving into a new stage. He's "caught" you, and now he's cooling his heels a little. Maybe the pursuit is over for now, and he is relaxed with knowing you'll be there when he's ready. Just speculating, though. I think you might be able to figure more out if you compare the way he is acting now to how he acted on the weekends before.

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before he would initiate contact and ask me out. Though he kinda "forgot" about Valentine's Day. Maybe this is just another sign that he's not that interested in me :-(

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Well..you've only been dating a month...maybe you're getting too involved or attached too soon? Honestly, I think that a lot of guys have a sort of relationship ADHD. I have a friend who knows a lot of guys. They are interested in her and smother her a bit, and then they disappear for a while. Then one hears that she's dating another one and has a fit, even though he hasn't contacted her in a while. It's nutty. I'd step back a bit and just try to go slow and easy. Find out if he is a grownup or not. A dating relationship shouldn't lead to all kinds of analysis and stress, especially this early on.

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Did you call him?

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i contacted him first the last two times, he wrote back...eventually, but hasn't contacted me since I decided to take a step back and see if he'd show any interest without my "prodding"

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Well now you know.

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No, and I'm pretty comfortable being alone.

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Not by choice, but in the days I was dating we didn't have cell phones, etc., so we had to be both at home at the same time to talk to each other.

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but today people have cell phones attached to their hips. So I can only assume it's because he doesn't WANT to talk to me :-(

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Or he's just very busy?

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Or he doesn't carry his cell phone everywhere... I'm the same way, I don't bother with my phone unless I'm relaxing.

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Heck, my cell sits in my van for emergenies only.

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I wouldn't be worried if he hadn't constantly kept in contact with me and initiated contact for the first month of our dating. It's a complete 180 in his communication style that's got me worried...

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It's only one weekend, give him a bit more slack before you start to worry.

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