I too have this predicament. I have recently found my first love and here I am in Florida, and he's in Ohio. We have rediscovered all those emotions we found in our teens.
Bill is single. I'm not. My husband had a stroke last September which turned him into a violent man. He's in an ALF and I have learned to approach him with great care. I cannot divorce him as he has nobody else. Yes I still feel for my H yet I miss the comfort, kindness, being held.
Neither Bill nor I have forgotten what we had as teens. We remember every detail. He even can recall the clothes I wore on certain nights.
Simply to have him in my Skype where we can see each other and talk of our day, is nothing short of a miracle.
Thankyou for posting this. I needed to learn I am not alone.
P.S. I'm 61 honey. Still wanting sex desperately. You settled in taking this marriage. I did too, my 1st marriage. But B was never far from my thoughts.
I GOT MARRIED FOR THE FIRST TIME WHEN I WAS 37..............