I have been a Pallbearer about six times, but never an Usher, whatever the role you asked to do, I feel it should be an honour to do it, and be treated with the upmost respect.
Yes. It isn't supposed to be "nice". It is supposed to be a service to another in a time of grief and pain. I have been honored to do so, and I handled it in a manner of respect and compassion for the family.<br />
(I took his usher label to mean pallbearer)
Usher no, but I was a pallbearer for an uncle once
I've never been an usher at one but I've been a pallbearer many times. And when I was in the Army, I was on the funeral team. I was one of those guys who shot off blanks while they folded the flag.
In the USA the funeral home directors take care of that themselves. They will ask for 6 people, to serve as pallbearers; those are usualy once removed family members. I have volentered at all, except the funerals of my son and parents.
Yes, I mean pall bearer. I have never been to a funeral that asked for ushers.