I'd just rather be honest and let them go if were in our early stages, instead of dragging it out for the sake of not being alone or sparing their feelings.
What do you mean, find a way out? The way out is by being honest, tell them how you feel, and break up with them. Don't do manipulative things to make them feel insecure, or lead them on. Just be honest and straightforward. Also, it would be good if you talked to them about your insecurities in the relationship so that you can give them a chance to change things.
Ah I see, that's a bit of a tough situation. Maybe you could stay with someone else till your apartment is ready? if you can find an alternative to staying there for the time being, it's probably a good option.
No. I've only stayed in a relationship if I thought there was some hope to save it. And even if I knew it was coming to a breakup, I've never "faked" it. What would be the point of that? There aren't "escape routes" that I know of.
Half faking it in one now. I've told him how miserable I am and we've been "trying" to make things work for a long time. On Monday he admitted to the counselor that he's only been half trying, because of fear of failure in relationships. I accepted this and was ready to give it another try, because I believe in honoring the vows I took, but I'm realizing today that I don't think I can do this. I really don't even like him anymore. I've spent the morning either sleeping or crying. Not sure exactly what's next. Tears on the keyboard...
Not out of it but deeper in it.
Not a good enough liar for that plus I wouldn't want to hurt someone needlessly
Sort of, I was in the process of leaving when I finally had a really good reason to just get the hell out of there. before that I was trying to do it slowly and let him down gently.
best to just do it quickly, like ripping off a bandage
do what you gotta do! good for you!
I'm from New Jersey, what do you think?
Doing that right now.