my guy has been watching me doing it for the past 10 months...
I watched my stepdad smoke and smoke and refuse to give it up...until lung cancer killed him a few years ago. <br />
I've had people that I care for go down a self destructive path, but for the most part, I don't watch. Usually there comes a time when I have done all that I can and either they or I step back. It is generally too frustrating for me to watch that sort of thing when I can't get through to someone.
Yes, I watched my father drown himself to death in alcohol after my mother left him.
Daily...but it is her life to lead and no one can force her to change. She needs to want to change. That is the only problem with the AA 12 step program.