Resolved Question

Have you ever married someone, only to find that they became a completely different person?

On the other hand, have some of you married a person that remained virtually the same? Why do you think marriage seems to change some people so drastically? Is age a factor? Did each of you have a strong sense of who you were before marriage?

I don't know if people become completely different people after marriage. Seems to me if that kind of thing happens, it's more a case of them not being themselves fully before marriage, then gradually letting more and more of their true selves show. Of course values and ideas and feelings change over time with most people, I know I have become a better version of myself since I got married b/c I have always acknowledged my faults and worked hard to overcome my issues. Marriage can help hold up a mirror to your face. In people unwilling to be honest with themselves and look into the mirror their spouse holds up for them, marriage can be a nightmare. I believe maturity levels and personal responsibility and accountability are more pertinent issues than age differences.