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there is a man on this site who only wants to start arguments, every thing I've read of his makes me feel sad or angrey and for the very first time in my life i don't like someone Ive never even met, has this happened to any of you? try to love everyone or at least like most people, and I'm ashamed to admit it but even his profile pic, creeps me out, I've stoped reading his questions and answers, but I feel bad because as a christian and a human i shouldn't judge anybody, but I actualy get the heebejeebies from this person, has anyone on this site effected you this way,
woodinhouse woodinhouse 41-45, F 26 Answers Jun 22, 2009

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No, but I have found some people whose answers lead me to believe we could be friends.

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communication is only 5%words<br />
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yet here on EP we can only use words....so misunderstandings are bound to happen with the "arrangement" of words

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Is it me? Some people like my profile pic.<br />
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It's not a question of dislike. Sometimes it becomes obvious that we are polar opposites, and could never get along.

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Yes, it has happened to me.....Being a Christian doesn't mean we have to like everything anyone says....so, don't beat yourself up over it.....<br />
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The heebejeebies you mention, is most likely your decerning "gut feeling".....and who do you think instills that in us? Yes, God!....So, I actually think it's a good thing.

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if u don't like me -- just TELL me!!! And I am NOT a man! ;P<br />
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lol lol jus kiddn ima dork<br />
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well when i feel as u do, i try to remember that i don't know what that person may be going/gone through that makes them as they are. Often i find that contrary people are either unhappy all the time or missing out on a lot. So i feel bad for them but know they will /can change when they are ready.<br />
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As for avoiding them, that's perfectly ok to do - even healthy -- unless you have 'an inner nudge' telling you otherwise. you're OK ; )

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It's completely human to dislike and/or judge people. Everyone does it, whether they know it or not. Nobody's perfect.

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Of course, but I think that you can still have compassion and empathy in your heart for all people, without necessarily liking their deeds. If you walked through life with no sense that humans can make bad and evil choices, then your whole sense of morality would collapse! :)<br />
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Ask yourself this: as awful as you find this man to be, if he was in desperate need of help (like starving on your doorstep), would you try to help him? I believe that this is probably a better indication of your Christian nature than attempting to never be disgusted by his actions. You can dislike the deeds and still have compassion for the flawed human behind them. :)

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No, but I do decide whether I agree or not.

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No, i have never experienced that! :-) a lot of people i have come into contact with are all very nice, speaking for myself of course!

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While wrestling and trying to suppress my paranoia I began to wonder how could it be determined that he only wanted to start arguments? Where does this obligation to love everyone arise? The feelings that you harbour about him are solely yours so have you ever wondered why you have those? If he has no connection to you then the attitude he conveys from his writing presumably represents something in your life, possibly some fear or trauma from the past which you may be projecting on to him. The interesting feature about profile pictures is their use in disguise and it is fascinating how some use those. While those pictures may reveal a little of the person, it is unlikely to say much about their nature. Have you considered that your own profile picture shows that you may be struggling with depression? Before crucifying others in life you might first consider your part in your own downfall.<br />
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The Playwright Shakespeare once wrote, "The fault, dear Brutus, is not in our stars but in ourselves that we are underlings"!<br />
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Sometimes confession is not good for the soul.

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I've never noticed that its the same person. But there are some responses that annoy me because the person is not being responsive to the question. I skip over those quickly. Every web site has people like this. They are called trolls.<br />
You are only human.

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All the time... some of these are now blocked from my profile. I ignore them and I would be glad if they ignored me.<br />
There are plenty of others in here that I disagree with and I dread at their answers but I do not dislike them at all.

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Sometimes words are misunderstood. Taken out of context etc. <br />
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So, reading question responses and making a character assessment is in a word: stupid.

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lol, yes. I have experienced that. I try not to dwell on it. And I try very hard to figure out WHAT exactly bothers me about them. Because maybe it's not the person themselevs, but something they do, or something they remind me of, etc. But sometimes I just can't figure it out.

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He talks too much like me, but I don't care. I do this with good will.

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yes we all have at least once in our lives come into contact with someone that you completely cant stand. Life would be very boring if we were all the same.<br />
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I really wouldn't worry bout it and i think he'd get a thrill if he thought someone felt so wound up by him.

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Idk the person you mean, but there's a couple of things to address here - Some people get their thrills by being horrid. They really do. It makes them feel important. Second, realize that that they can say these things because they don't think of the receipient as a real person. While we may try to remember that there's a real human being at the other end of our on-line communications, we also must accept there are those who don't give us the same consideration. I'm not sure that being Christian means that you actually need to "like" someone who behaves that way!

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Actually I use the question to see what a person is really like- their spontaneous answers say a lot about them. I am very discerning and have learned a lot about people through this section. IE you may have friended the nicest person ever only to find out they love **********, or believe in abortion, or are happily having an affair or something else that shocks you...

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I try not to focus on the person in siuations like that.<br />
I try to focus on the behaviour.<br />
That way I can address it without getting personally upset.<br />
And I find I can offer encouraging thoughts to the person in the hopes that they might get the hint.<br />
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If our heart is closed, the hearts of others cannot be open to us. So I try to keep mine open.<br />
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Maybe the person's a tortured soul who needs pity, support and encouragement to get back on track. They may not know any other way to relate, and that's a really sad thought.<br />
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So I try to lead them by showing them an example of gentleness and forbearance, thoughtfulness and caring, humility and love.<br />
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If they only ever get spurned, how will they learn?

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I completely understand. Don't feel bad, you are still a good person. You just know who you don't need to communicate with. I'm sorry you're feeling that way because of someone else.

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