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Have you ever wanted something from someone knowing all along you were being totally selfish and unfair in wanting it?

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Asked By: 1step4ward 61-65, M  7 months ago

I love a woman and want her to love me. But I will never be free to give myself completely to her. So I am selfish. Loving me would only lead to hurt for her.

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12 Answers to "Have you ever wanted something from someone knowing all along you were being totally selfish and unfair in wanting it?"

  1. CuriousAngelina - 46-50 years old - female

    Posted by CuriousAngelina Nov 28th, 2012 at 10:13PM

    Love never comes with easy answers. Most of the time it comes with it's own hurt for many different reasons. To not be able to be with the one that has your heart is very difficult indeed!

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  2. PenelopeParfait - 18-21 years old - female

    Posted by PenelopeParfait Nov 4th, 2012 at 9:57AM

    Sort of, I suppose.

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  3. 1step4ward - 61-65 years old - male

    Reply by 1step4ward Nov 4th, 2012 at 12:27PM

    Be very careful!

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  4. PenelopeParfait - 18-21 years old - female

    Reply by PenelopeParfait Nov 4th, 2012 at 12:28PM

    Thank you and I will.

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  5. StarMommyO - 36-40 years old - female

    Posted by StarMommyO Nov 4th, 2012 at 7:08AM

    I think so...

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  6. 1step4ward - 61-65 years old - male

    Reply by 1step4ward Nov 4th, 2012 at 12:26PM

    My best wishes to you. Guard your heart as much as you can.

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  7. StarMommyO - 36-40 years old - female

    Reply by StarMommyO Nov 4th, 2012 at 10:56PM

    We both know we are soulmates. It is US. But since we are 600 miles apart, we agreed not to wait for each other, even tho deep inside parts of us always will. So, he has a girlfriend. But every time we see each other, we get tempted to go further than best friends should. Also, we text each other everyday and sometimes our conversation goes where it is not supposed to. I feel guilty because he is TAKEN now, even tho I know we are just made for each other.

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  8. KristyCZ - 22-25 years old

    Posted by KristyCZ Nov 4th, 2012 at 6:33AM

    I am experiencing the same, ****** up ! cant stand the thought he could be with someone else but at the same time i know that i wont be here for him and love him endlessly anyway..

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  9. 1step4ward - 61-65 years old - male

    Reply by 1step4ward Nov 4th, 2012 at 12:25PM

    It's hard and hurts doesn't it?

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  10. KristyCZ - 22-25 years old

    Reply by KristyCZ Nov 4th, 2012 at 7:43PM

    it does hurt.. i suppoose that the best thing to do now would be just stop thinking about that someone and move on, because time can heal every wound and all the pain we fell now will dissapear.. but now is now and now its hard.

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  11. howardnc - 41-45 years old - male

    Posted by howardnc Nov 4th, 2012 at 6:27AM

    Nah... I just wanted the truth from my mom.
    She waited 40 years to tell me and soon after I
    found my dad, I was burying him. He died 2 months
    after we had met.

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  12. 1step4ward - 61-65 years old - male

    Reply by 1step4ward Nov 4th, 2012 at 12:25PM

    I'm sorry to hear that. How very sad.

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  13. cagedinside - 18-21 years old

    Posted by cagedinside Nov 4th, 2012 at 5:57AM

    Love can only be described as bipolar, i have no idea what kind of situation your in but i feel the same way. The only thing to do is be honest and do what is right for her. Just try your best, things will work itself out.

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  14. 1step4ward - 61-65 years old - male

    Reply by 1step4ward Nov 4th, 2012 at 12:24PM

    You're right. I made the mistake of telling her about my feelings...which she does not share. Best thing for her is for me to do is no longer be a part of her life. And that is the path I have chosen.

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  15. sundragon - 41-45 years old - male

    Posted by sundragon Nov 4th, 2012 at 5:53AM

    We must be clones.

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  16. Kwiatkowski - 26-30 years old - female

    Posted by Kwiatkowski Nov 4th, 2012 at 5:49AM

    Yes like asking money from Dad all the time

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  17. peacefulfoxfactor - 18-21 years old - female

    Posted by peacefulfoxfactor Nov 4th, 2012 at 5:48AM

    No!

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  18. SamPrue - 13-15 years old - female

    Posted by SamPrue Nov 4th, 2012 at 5:48AM

    yes but honest, that was called childhood... now the only thing I want is to live my own life and protect the ones I love

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  19. 1step4ward - 61-65 years old - male

    Reply by 1step4ward Nov 4th, 2012 at 12:20PM

    Good for you...protect them well.

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  20. SamPrue - 13-15 years old - female

    Reply by SamPrue Nov 4th, 2012 at 12:22PM

    I give my best

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  21. kimdrum - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by kimdrum Nov 4th, 2012 at 5:44AM

    no because a relationship is about sharing! sure wished you thought about that when you first met her! so sad she does not know!

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  22. 1step4ward - 61-65 years old - male

    Reply by 1step4ward Nov 4th, 2012 at 12:20PM

    Actually she does know. Should have kept that to myself...followed your wise advice.

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  23. laughinkatt - 31-35 years old - female

    Posted by laughinkatt Nov 4th, 2012 at 5:40AM

    Most definitely...understandable. Been there. Just get it out of your system without harming others if you can.

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  24. 1step4ward - 61-65 years old - male

    Reply by 1step4ward Nov 4th, 2012 at 5:41AM

    Suggestions on how to do that?

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  25. laughinkatt - 31-35 years old - female

    Reply by laughinkatt Nov 4th, 2012 at 7:09AM

    If I assume that she is attached...or you are attached too...may I suggest writing a song for her...somehow secretly letting her know you are the author. The whole harming others thing....don't want to do that.

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