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Have you had this talk with your children?

I posted this a while ago, and because of the word s*e*x in the title..... they put it in "mature" topics.....so, I am trying it again, re-wording it.

In my area, there are a lot of commercials, advising parents to have a talk with their kids about drugs, alcohol, and having unprotected sex....I remember having this talk many times, with mine, but I was wondering if you all keep that line of communication open with your kids, and if you have talked to them about it, what was your advice to them?

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I believe it starts very young. It depends on our attitude as a parent. In other words you have to be comfortable enough to talk about it, be open and honest with them. By doing so you are keeping the lines of communication open, showing them you are approachable. I am very comfrotable talking about our bodies,sex etc. Which to my daughter is absolutely horrible. She is not comfortable talking about anything at all. When she was younger it was okay but as she got into puberty she didn't want to hear about it, but I was not going to stop talking about it.
I think it starts with using correct names for body parts, get them used to using those names. Start talking about good touch bad touch, what is covered by a swim suit is bad touch areas. You get into differences between boys and girls. Where do babies come from. If you are not comfortable enough on your own with these topics get a age appropriate book to read together. Then allow them to ask questions, ou have to be ready to answer those questions. Talking about sex,drugs and alcohol has to start so much earlier now. Look we have 10yr old girls having babies. Did they even know how it happened?
It is something most parents find difficult. But if we don't who will, are we going to rely an the schools to do it for us? If someone doesn't they will go out and find out on their own. I have a 20 yr old in college, a 18 yr old daughter getting ready to graduate, a 13 yr horndog, and a 7 yr son. I can only do the best I can, talk to them hope they listen be open and receptive to their questions, and lots of prayer. My daughter went to a baby shower this year for a friend. This was a harsh reality check for me. But then I realized I was 18 when I got pregnant, how much did I know. Not very much because no one talked to me. I don't want that for my kids.

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edgargeorge	Posted Apr 30th, 2009 at 2:48PM I talk with both my kids all the time. I take a different tact with mine though; for drugs, I tell them that self-medication is dangerous, not that the drugs themselves are. Also since the brain is still developing until about age 25, it can’t be good to mess with your brain chemistry randomly. Since they are both students, I explained that marijuana interferes with short-term memory and will impact their ability to study for tests, memorize facts and terms, etc. With sex, while I stress the importance of trust prior to any such engagement, I flat out told my daughter to wait because the older you get, the better it gets. I know that's a somewhat unorthodox perspective, but I just didn't want her to be with someone young, inexperienced and selfish. I want my kids to have positive sexual experiences just as I would want all their other experiences to be positive. With my son, who is quite frugal, I explained the financial burdens of bringing a child into the world, and that one brief encounter could end up to be a life long financial commitment. Also that no means no, but that goes without saying… I encourage both my children to make decisions about how they feel about sex and drugs and to live by those decisions. I can't make the decisions for them. So far, so good. Rated: +2Vote for this!
Jucealala	Posted Apr 30th, 2009 at 9:26AM I'm wondering how this talk goes? My parents never had it with me. Rated: +1Vote for this!
Oddi	Posted Apr 30th, 2009 at 10:11AM Yes, I have, but it seems like the school has always beaten me to it. They start teaching them younger and younger these days. What they do not teach is to make sure your boys always use protection regardless of whether or not the young lady is. This is because she may well be lying! I tell them that if they get someone pregnant they will never see their wages again, they will never have money to go out. If they get married, she will take him for the house, the car and everything. I tell them to stay single and put their money in the bank and leave the women alone! Rated: +1Vote for this!

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