Hello. I am 24 years old with a career and a relationship issues with my mom. Am I the problem or is it her?

She is still worried about you... She wants the best for you... She thinks you deserve the best... May be you can understand her point of view when you will have a baby:). Hey congratulations... You are engaged:)

sounds to me like your ma has problems. if you are happy with you job you are verry lucky ! i switched jobs to make more $$ big mistake wish i never did. and to late. you are able to suport your self that is great! She doesn t like you boy friend. well that is normal. lot mothers (and fathers) all ways think childs lover not good enough. thats why lot mother in law jokes. my mother in law hated me for lot years. i took her only daught away. she now lives in inlaw with us and loves me. but lot years did nothen but cut me up!! off course in return i threw in my digs ! but all worked out in end. so try not take her to serious she only wants best for you. sounds like you doing great! good luck with your mom

The world has moved on and your mother's perspective has not. It's difficult for the older crowd to get their heads around it all.

Your mother and father grew up in a world where people expected to have one career - possibly even one job - their entire lives. In that world it was possible for many people to support a family on a single salary. You've entered a much more unstable world economy, and a job market dominated by transience, where the best strategy for the ambitious is to move on after two years if promotion is not in the cards.

It's also a market for chameleons, and most of us will re-create ourselves almost from scratch several times over the course of our careers. Employers aren't loyal, no matter how they dress it up, and we've all got to live by our wits to a certain degree and keep looking out for ourselves.

A woman who expects a man to support her financially also agrees to accept a subordinate position, allowing the man to dominate her, make all the big decisions, and wield his financial control as a weapon to enforce his will. At best, it's like he's the CEO of the family and she's his trusted personal assistant and adviser, at worst it's like he's purchased a housekeeping slave and bed-warmer.

Which is fine if that's what you're into and works well for some, (and is kind of hot to fantasize about :P) but also means that in many cases, the woman becomes an infantile version of herself, incapable of thinking rationally about the big picture. In a lot of ways, a woman in that kind of a relationship never grows up simply because she's never had to.

Sounds like that's your mom. A grown woman with her own wisdom in many respects, but also a child when it comes to her expectations about relationships and the world at large.

Roll your eyes and cut her some slack, but also tell her in no uncertain terms that this is the way it's going to be and she'd better suck it up and deal if she wants to stay connected.

I am sorry if i get offensive at any point........
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