A 16 year old has NO BUSINESS with a man that age.. HE should be ashamed of himself....
Agreed. Nobody can protect you if you're not willing to help protect yourself. I hope whatever pain you must endure is brief. And I hope you are wise enough to follow the advice you sought.
Are you actually dating this guy? Everyone is assuming that he is in the wrong for dating a 16 year old or leading you on and if that is the case, then yes, what he is doing is wrong. However, this may be a teenage crush on a man who has done nothing to encourage it. You need to give more details about this before we rip his head off.
Technically that guy is a *********
Sixteen years older and does not trust you. There is no future in this relationship just pain and more pain.
He doesn’t trust you? If you haven’t looked at why you shouldn’t trust him, then I think him trusting you is the least of your problems.
Im curious what an acceptable age difference would be to you guys?<br />
Does it change if she said there were no trust issues?<br />
What if he didn't want sex? Just companionship? Still no business?
She is still underage.
What you’re really asking is how can we make a judgment if we don’t have all the facts and if we had all the facts would we come to the same conclusion of a 16yr old and a 38yr. old not being right and what is acceptable. Well I know one thing without knowing any circumstances at all with this one. It is wrong on just about every level. Because for starters, no matter what the deal, he has everything to gain and she has everything to lose. He can walk away having probably processed the feeling of breaking up many times and be better equipped to deal with those feelings, whereas she could be ripped apart for life. Here’s the deal. It’s about emotional maturity. And if one person has the emotional maturity of a sixteen year old, they will probably relate to a sixteen year old rather well, but just because they can relate does not make it right. The older person who is still feeling like they are sixteen needs to grow up and the person who really sixteen should not be required to be emotionally thirty eight. So what is the appropriate age regardless of law or anything else for two people to be together? It all depends on where each person is at when the meet. The farther apart that is, the more difficult it will be. And in this case there is little doubt because of actual age that the one who is going to have the most difficulty is the sixteen year old. I’m writing this much about this because it’s long overdue that all males start getting this right. Just because she may have the same equipment as an older woman does not make her open game to start a relationship with, without a lot of thinking about it first. I don’t know the statistics of how many women are walking around feeling victimized these days, but from what I’ve seen and heard it is a very high number and it’s bad for everyone included.
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I saw a formula a long time ago. I don't quite remember what it was, or if it was actually used somewhere in the world as a legal guide, but it was something like, half your age plus seven after a certain point (with a different rule for younger). That would make the cut-off for him at 26. Hmmm
Oh, and I forgot another possibility: what if the 16 year old was a male, in love with a 38 year old?
Human behaviors and opinions are fascinating. Just saying.
16 and 38? Well, one thing is the age difference (since you're still under 18), and because he's older than you, he'll probably think that he can control you because you are so young.
Absolutely-I've been through that before, dating someone older than me, and that person thought that they could control every aspect of my life. I had to cut them loose. And thanks for liking my answer! :-))
The way it sounds, it's like he's the one that's distrustful. Usually when a person acts like they don't trust you no matter how much you've shown them that they can, they're doing something sneaky themselves.
He's a *********, if he's pursuing you. Look it up online and read about them, that should give you some insight.
Be careful, he might fake his real personality, try and date someone near your age and not 22years older than you, many reasons why, when you're 60 he's dead, have a long life together etc.<br />
Firstly a relationship all revolves on trust so talk to him.<br />
See how it goes.
This is the new acc the ilovemybro stopped working<br />
Yea we r dating but i have fallen inlove im trying to sort this mess out but its not as esasy as it seems
HE IS A LOSER!!!! Enough said.
Dump him . ASAP.
with all due respect your an idiot
its not bad but ur lover if ur going out is probably going to get arrested soo be careful who u talk to jail bait
If you're in the middle twenties, i would say its probably ok, but you're only sixteen. You'll find other guys thats better.
You're still young there will be more guys that will come. Don't rush yourself. It's better to wait and find the right guy. You'll be happier in the end.
Wait two more years and then you're legal. Too many complications come with you being underage and being in love with an older man, a much older man.<br />
Right now, just wait a couple of years. He's probably concerned about what'll happens if others find out that you're pursuing him (I can almost guarantee they won't be thrilled).
Figure it out after the two years. Use these two years as a break and do a lot of soul searching.
think you are being used by him i see major problems with you being 16 and him 38, why can he not date his own age
I understand you
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Hi, I don't now whether this is an issue any more or long forgotten. But I disagree with what the majority of people are saying on here. I am myself 16, and am unconditionally in love with a 31 year old man! We have been together for just over a year now, and nothing has changed.. I can't even notice our age gap any more. However.. We have learnt to trust each other, and now our whole relationship is built on trust. Without trust this type of relationship WILL NOT last!<br />
You must also realise the risks that come with the relationship. I myself am quite mature for my age as I have be brought up in a household where I had to look after myself. I have seen dangers and situations that many 31 year old people have not. This fact allows the age gap between me and my boyfriends to seem less of a problem. If you are not mature enough the relationship WILL NOT last! <br />
There is as well, the inconvenience of keeping the whole thing on the hush! Since we have been together not a single person knows about us. My father would kill him and me:P I do not know how your parents are with you or how they would be likely to react but the majority of parents would not like the situation. You must be willing to keep the secret for your realtionship to last.(In my case)<br />
I hope that you have sorted this dilemma by now. If you have begun a relationship with this man BE CAREFUL! I may talk of my boyfriend as if it's fine but society WILL NOT see it that way! TRUST is key!