actually thats exactly what aspergers does to us
we are unattached, and to find someone like me who does attach is rare
if i get hurt i am just as capable of detaching as any of the others
wrong ... if he feels like i do then yeah he can get hurt ... but if its a continual struggle for him to even have a relationship, then just like what happened to me, he's gonna get more used to detaching and less likely to want you
if you are special you may be someone who can overcome this and show him enough love and patience that he will stay
That is what hurts me the most. When my husband wants to he can easily turn his love into hate without batting an eye. I have seen it. And it isn't an act. I always felt if I left him, he would never come after me. Even after 21 years of marriage I know he will never fight for me. The weirdest thing is I actually feel that he loves me in his own weird way but he can turn that off like a switch if he so desires. I have seen him though, he will suffer in the dark with a deep depression and then just throw himself in his true love, his work. I guess the answer is they can easily let go of us because they never really were in the relationship in the first place.
HEy just found something for you on people with autism.It States that autistic indivials are insensitive to others because they are preoccupied by their condition which makes it difficult to emotionally attach to others.
well my 22yr old son with adhd who meets some of the aspbergers symptoms has a very hard time seeing things from others perspectives and has lousy social skills but talking never hurts.Try it and see if you can get through to him but try to ubderstand if you don't.
In his mind he may have let you go to in some way protect himself from something he may not be ready for.Perhaps he just needs some reassurance.
Just ask him if he has any doubts about the relationship as a whole and see if there is anyway you can help.
Ok so make that had or ask him what he decided to end things.
You are welcome.I read stuff constantly so I'm not positive where the article was.Possibly Huffington Post.Just look up Empathoponia.Have a great day!
Hey just found the article again.One of my twitter friends posted it.look up Mark Goulston.com then go to usable insight then empathopenia.The article was written Dec.6.
Yup, just like my Ex Kathryn.
I have a step cousin with asbergers and he has no interest in relationships or sex. He is just into computers. I am shocked that someone with asbergers desires another intimately. I am not fully educated into asbergers but what I have learned so far is that they are unattached to everyone.
you are right usually, i am a rarity, an empath with aspergers
Yep! That sounds like my step cousin. He's in his 30's now and he will be alone for the rest of his life.
Do you like intimacy?
I didn't think they were capable of being intimate. I learn something new everyday.
Oh so not true they have the same desires but their poor social skills make it hard to achieve.
I've been diagnosed with aspergers.
Letting go, can be rather easy for some people.
Easy. They just don't like you anymore