How can I be less scared about my girlfriend's past?
I moved to LA about a year ago, and six months ago I started dating Amy. We are very compatible together, and I'm very happy when I'm with her.
I am freaked out by stories about Amy's past. Here are some examples:
1. She told me stories about when she'd go to bars to "pick up". She was quite proud of how she's taken home "trophies".
2. When she went overseas, she'd stay at her friends' places, and if they're guys, she'd find it normal to sleep with them.
3. Once she had a one-nighter with her ex-boyfriend's best friend (after they had broken up).
Coming from a conservative family and community, I find these stories and behavior weird and "icky". I cannot connect with them. I feel like this is a lifestyle and mindset that's beyond me. Thinking about it makes me feel threatened and unsafe. My projections are stopping me from experiencing my relationship with her fully (not to mention crazy amounts of unnecessary stress).
Please feel free to share your stories/experiences.