How can I be sure my boyfriend will stick around after the baby comes?

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You can't ever be sure about anything. The only thing you can do is make sure to be the mother that your baby deserves. Whether that be a single mommy or in a long term relationship. There a lot of single moms out there that are doing great. You don't need a man to be a strong woman. Good luck.

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mmc2012	Posted Jun 13th, 2009 at 1:11AM some people on here are so rude,.. like almost all on here,. im sorry that u have to question yall's relationship. .yall need to seriously talk,.. try counseling,.. many churches offer it free of charge. dont marry him just so that he'll stick around, he can still leave, or possibly make all 3 of yall's lives miserable. on another note congrats on bringing a baby in to this worldim sure you will be a great mother. :) Rated: +3Vote for this!
Moran1988	Posted Jun 13th, 2009 at 2:20PM You can't. Even if you marry him. It's ultimately his choice. If the relationship is happy, functional, stable and the sex is good, I think the odds increase slightly. But at this age there are no guarantees, honestly. (He, at NO age there are guarantees, but at your age is harder coz he has not lived enough and he might want to do that). Rated: +3Vote for this!
deerly	Posted Jun 13th, 2009 at 1:12AM If this is a question that you are concerned about, I'm so sorry. There is no way to be sure of another person's behavior but if your relationship lacks the genuine, open and honest communication and trust to feel confident in him and eachother ... :( I am very sorry but you will be able to make the best decisions for you and for the baby when the time comes :) Rated: +2Vote for this!
justawish	Posted Jun 13th, 2009 at 1:13AM there is no way to know for sure if he will stick around. You will just have to depend on yourself, friends, and family. It may be rough but you can pull through. Even without him. If he leaves you...then it reveals the character of a man that you will not want around your children. Most of the time it's because they are afraid...not because they don't care...make sure you know why. If he leaves you...don't worry there are better guys who will love and take care of you. Just don't fall for anyone! Rated: +2Vote for this!
TheOutsider	Posted Jun 12th, 2009 at 11:17PM That's something you need to be reasonably sure of before you spread your legs. And for the love of- do not marry him just so you can trap him into caring for you and your child. That's sick, people. Rated: +2Vote for this!
pukirahe	Posted Jun 12th, 2009 at 7:14PM That is the bitter problem of romance without marriage. In marriage, his parents can and must help you. Rated: +1Vote for this!
keitha340	Posted Jun 12th, 2009 at 7:18PM oh honey...thats a tough one. i wish you the best of luck. Rated: +1Vote for this!
Leaper	Posted Jun 12th, 2009 at 7:29PM You can’t; simply just hope he does the right thing and sticks by you. Though honestly, I would have thought you would have made sure he was behind you 100% before decided to bring a life in to this world. Rated: +1Vote for this!
Eemcee	Posted Jun 12th, 2009 at 7:33PM Its better if you ask him for marriage. If not, atleast a concent from his parents that he has a obligation from you.. Rated: +1Vote for this!
Shoreboy	Posted Jun 12th, 2009 at 7:40PM You cannot, and honestly if he doesn't want to be around you should not. What you need to ensure is that he acknowledges the child and signs the birth certificate as the father. He darned well better do everything he can to support you and the child if he doesn't decide to be a 'father' other than biologically. I strongly suggest telling his mother whether he wants to or not. Trust me she will put pressure on him to be involved at least in some way. Rated: +1Vote for this!
terryd41	Posted Jun 12th, 2009 at 7:41PM There are no certainties in the world we find ourselves,but babies do change us completely, Once that baby comes it will be the most important thing in your life and your whole outlook will be changed. You will manage for your sake and your babies whichever way things go. Rated: +1Vote for this!
Caliper	Posted Jun 12th, 2009 at 7:59PM If he is a player, then I don't think he'll stick around. Hope for the best and plan for the worst Rated: +1Vote for this!
TouchMeNot	Posted Jun 12th, 2009 at 8:06PM Marry him. Rated: +1Vote for this!
iluvmypup	Posted Jun 12th, 2009 at 8:18PM in short, you can't. Hope for the best and don't take him for granted. If you love each other, things will work out. Rated: +1Vote for this!

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