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How can I deal positively with a person who I know for sure is unkind and cannot be trusted?

When I see her and her "clique" a couple times a week, I speak, hug them and sometimes converse with them, but she is always telling people I have a problem with her. I don't buy into any of her drama and always treat her like I treat everyone else. I really feel like she does not like herself and is always looking for attention any way that she can get it. Other people know that she has bad behavior but because of who she is, she is allowed to get away with all sorts of things.

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Hi my air name is Thunder767. The best way to deal with any person like that is first of all pray for her to be healed of the bad spirit, and second of all continue to show love. Love changes situation and people. Trust the wisdom because I am a living witness. Some people do not understand how rude or annoying their ignorance can be, and some has not been taught respect or the meaning of true friendship or trust. Ask yourself if she was you , why would you carry on that way? She needs prayer, and you also need prayer to be strong in time of weakness. You are not her judge, and remember we all have at times said or treated someone unfairly. So my advice is to pray, and continue to show nothing but kindness, and love towards her, and all will work out.

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kellymcgrady	Posted May 26th, 2009 at 6:40PM stop all communication with them its actual quite easy. they may talk to you or try to make contact with you in the beginning but eventually they just leave you alone and you dont have to deal with them anymore. Rated: +1Vote for this!
LizardKing	Posted May 26th, 2009 at 6:42PM Just talk to her, smile at her. Don't let her get to you, let her know that she can't affect your mood. Rated: +1Vote for this!
axeman66	Posted May 26th, 2009 at 6:48PM just do what you are doing. be cordial. be polite. never turn your back. Rated: +1Vote for this!
edgargeorge	Posted May 26th, 2009 at 6:49PM Can you say "histrionic?" This is not someone you waste a single moment worrying about. If anyone asks, yes, you have a problem with her. She's a bore. Rated: +1Vote for this!
MarvelousNin	Posted May 26th, 2009 at 6:57PM Keep doing what you're doing. Some people need drama so badly that they will create it where it doesn't exist. Just keep being your wondeful self and maybe it will rub off on her. Rated: +1Vote for this!
wiseowl	Posted May 26th, 2009 at 7:01PM keep any contact short and cordial. Don't get involved with her behavior. It'll just bug you and then you are sucked into her weird world. DISTANCE! Rated: +1Vote for this!
miss77	Posted May 26th, 2009 at 7:02PM i used to be best friends with a girl who sounds exactly like this. she would make up rumors and try to get things started with me. i truely do not believe that she did it to hurt me. she had some family problems and it really was just cause she needed the attention. i tried to deal with it as best i could but things just kept progressing and i finally had to break it off completely. we do still talk sometimes but i dont think i would ever go back to being to close to her again. so depending on how bad it is and how much you feel you can take you might want to cool down the friendship or break it off completely. but be careful about how you do it because if she gets mad shes probably going to do something worse than youve seen so far. good luck Rated: +1Vote for this!
pixelita	Posted May 26th, 2009 at 7:06PM I would use positive energy and keep a good distance from them!! Rated: +1Vote for this!
HotPinkGirl	Posted May 26th, 2009 at 7:09PM I would just try to stay away from that clique. Or if you like the others, just stick with them and put up with her. Ignore the comments about your "problem with her". Rated: +1Vote for this!
dartist	Posted May 26th, 2009 at 8:01PM Knowing what to expect from her will keep you from being disappointed at her actions. Be kind as she might need your friendship. She sounds very insecure. Keep the door open but protect your feelings first of all. Good luck. Rated: +1Vote for this!
rubythursday	Posted May 26th, 2009 at 8:18PM Just be polite to her. I have found in dealing with people who cannot be trusted, that it's a good rule to never say anything to them or their friends that you would not say in front of a room full of people. Don't give them any ammunition. If they keep running their mouths about you, at least they are shooting blanks. Other people catch on pretty quickly to those kind of folks, and they won't judge you based on your opinions. Rated: +1Vote for this!
Duana	Posted May 26th, 2009 at 8:23PM If someone thinks you have a problem with them doesn't that make you feel bad and want to talk to them so you can get to the bottom of it? It sounds like she wants to get along with you but thinks you don't like her. Why don't you just tell her that you do! I think it would make her feel better- I know it would me if I were her. If you have already tried this then it just means she doesn't believe you yet- she probably thinks you are 'just saying that'. It takes time to win some people's trust. Rated: +1Vote for this!
BellaMoni	Posted May 29th, 2009 at 8:30AM Find happiness in knowing she has bad karma coming her way. Forgive her, because she has to act out in dumb ways to get attention, she can't be all that interesting. You're already the better person for attempting to be nicer to her, and posting this looking for ways to fix the problem, a lot of people would have just blown this way out of proportion. You can either ignore her and just let her get her 15 min. of fame, or just approach her calmy and tell her how you feel....not that she's evil, but that you don't want the tension between the two of you. Rated: +1Vote for this!

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