How can I deal with a husband who has no desire for me? He seems to see me as not even a woman.?

Counseling. First for yourself and than as a couple.

Have you tried talking to him about it. It might not even be you.

I know how you feel. I don't know if we have been married too long 28 years.

What does he do? Just is not interested? How old is he?
Does he have high stress at work? Depression is another problem with men. Also physical ailments also, like high blood pressure, diabetes.

Sometimes depression medication or other medications can cause this.

I would say talk to him. Because I have spoken to my husband till I am blue in the face and now he just walks off not wanting to hear me.

I don't know if this helps. My problem I believe is he does not want to be married anymore. He just does not want to give up half of everything. Well how about that I am rated below nasty, dirty money.

Maybe you should try to spend some quality time together. REember what made you both fall in love in the first place. Make time for each other, but have some YOU time, rekindle that desire that you once had for each other. We all feel like that a some time or another. Its good to talk to eah other! Good Luck

Ask him to get a check up.Ask about prof council.. if he won't do those two things, to see what is wrong, decide. Do I want t live ths way forever? Something is very wrong.

did he tell you this specifically? try talking with him, maybe he is dealing with some of his own concerns. he may not even be aware that you feel this way.

Try to talk to him about how you feel, it is possible he is unaware that he is igroring you. Hell in the evening put the moves on him, may work= may not, but nothing ventured nothing gained.....Good Luck..

I would strongly recommend you two go talk with a marriage counselor.
take care :)

This is a topic that continues to baffle me. I cant even visit the 'I live in a sexless marriage' area of this site. It makes me feel physically ill.

I cant understand why so many people are expected to go without, while there are others, here and elsewhere, that are seeking company. IDK, maybe humans have evolved beyond the need to reproduce, and cyber-sex is all they need (tongue in cheek here).

Counseling is a must, I agree.

is he stressed out? is he taking on alot of responsibility as a husband?you probably have to get some help for him if he cant tell you because it leads to other things if he dont do his part.

love it everytime i see the "leave him! divorce now!" reaction. would love to see those who give this advice how they deal similar situations.
Onesista, you gave too little details. in fact, none. He may do that cause you did also changed. maybe he don't feel he's "no.1" anymore. maybe he doesn't feel desired as in old days. maybe he lost selfesteem and he got over-shy.
maybe you turned into "that lady" that is so prude that he can't imagine you in dirty-sensual ways.
you two need to talk , and talk.. i mean really tal kand really listen to each other. if that won't work or at least make it clear what is the problem, then you can go to counseling. Tho i think a good healthy old fashion face-to-face open conversation should do it better and for free. i would be more open in front of my wife and not to some stranger who charge us over the clock.

Always remember it takes two to make a relationship work. He may not know that you are feeling as neglected as you do so you need to tell him. Then ask him what it is that he is needing. Maybe he is feeling the same way you do. It is hard to keep that flame burning when there are so many things in life trying to blow it out, family, job, and all the responsibilities that keep us from making our one and only from feeling like the one and lonely. The spouse should be the first priority.

Talk, Talk and talk & councelling