How can I forgive my Fiancee of 4 years of getting another girl pregnant?

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You cannot. We won't get into why it's taken 4 years to get from being a fiancée to a husband. Also... I hate to say it, but you need to get tested for any potential STDs as clearly he has been having unprotected sex with other women and if you also have been having sex without a condom you are at potentially fairly serious risk of a disease. I would return his ring at the same time you hand him the schedule for when you are going to get tested. That way there is no other explanation necessary for why you are ending the relationship. Any other financial, etc. ties you have with him should also be severed immediately. I'm terribly sorry to hear that something of this nature has entered into your life, but as others have stated if it had to happen thank God it happened before you married and possibly had children with this man.

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ZombieKitty	Posted Jul 13th, 2009 at 9:43AM Thank God you haven't married him yet, return his ring to him and go find a man who will treat you better!!!! And when you need a shoulder to cry on while you are going through it we are here for you at EP. Rated: +6Vote for this!
littlecloser	Posted Jul 13th, 2009 at 9:43AM Say to him "I forgive you" and then say "now I am going to forget you". Then walk away. Rated: +6Vote for this!
gerrynchappster	Posted Jul 13th, 2009 at 9:43AM You can forgive, but don't forget, keep it in mind when you give him back the ring and run! Thank goodness you don't have to go through the legal hassels that you would have if you had married the blockhead. And please, remember this. If he can do it this now when it is supposed to be the most passionate time in your relationship, what the heck do you think he would do once you are married for 10 yrs and that passion has wained? Find better...you deserve it! Rated: +5Vote for this!
Creamsicle	Posted Jul 13th, 2009 at 9:43AM Why should you? He made a mistake that's going to last a lifetime. Rated: +4Vote for this!
BettyValentine	Posted Jul 13th, 2009 at 9:43AM You can forgive him once you've kicked him out of your life. Rated: +4Vote for this!
geenpunchbuggie	Posted Jul 13th, 2009 at 9:43AM you don't. you get the HELL out of there. immediately. i hope she isn't dumb enough to have his baby! Rated: +3Vote for this!
amz10101	Posted Jul 13th, 2009 at 9:43AM You have been engaged for 4 years? I wouldn't marry him after that. Rated: +3Vote for this!
irenesnch	Posted Jul 13th, 2009 at 9:44AM Very easy. Tell him that you forgive him, return the ring and move on with your own life. You don't want to be with a loser..do you? Rated: +3Vote for this!
leah761	Posted Jul 13th, 2009 at 9:44AM you do not. Please god, i speak from experiance do not keep yourself in this sitiuation. It will just get worse. You will not trust him and when he goes to see the baby it will cause problems. All kinds of other type trust issues. you will be living in hell because of the things you will be thinking about. Get out of there now and you will thank yourself later. Rated: +3Vote for this!
walkthisway	Posted Jul 13th, 2009 at 9:44AM You can't. Rated: +2Vote for this!
dedre	Posted Jul 11th, 2009 at 11:43PM I almost always believe in a second chance...except for someone doing something THAT stupid. To me, the only thing dumber is to try to forgive and keep him. If you do forgive, good on you, you're a better person than me (really); but I still say even then you should ditch him, you deserve better than that dumbass who apparently can't even cheat on you 'safely'. Rated: +2Vote for this!
orien	Posted Jul 11th, 2009 at 9:06PM better than your husband of four years! Rated: +1Vote for this!
XxVCowxX	Posted Jul 11th, 2009 at 9:17PM It's whatever. Girls get pregnant from time to time. Rated: +1Vote for this!
unsure20	Posted Jul 11th, 2009 at 10:11PM Dear fla86388, that is a tough question to answer considering i have never been married, but i have struggled with forgiving someone i truly loved for doing something terrible to me, my mom. & i found that forgiving someone who really hurt you is not easy and it will take time but if you really love that person & want to make it work you have got to. It will make you much more happier & healthier mentally. now i must also say do not forget what he did, make sure that he knows what he did was truly wrong & that he will never do it again. if u r sure that he will be faithful from now on give him another chance but if there is any doubt in your mind LET HIM GO. b/c ur first mind is almost always right. Rated: +1Vote for this!
gia81	Posted Jul 11th, 2009 at 10:48PM You do not...did he think of you when he had sex? did he think of you when he chose not to use a condom? did he think of how HURT YOU WOULD BE? not for a second...Get tested ASAP! GOD only knows how many guys she slept with that she also let not use a condom...I promise your fiance is not the only one she slept with w/o protction...so you will not only need to get tested now but in 3 months and in six and one year! Keep in mind that YOU WILL NEVER put it behind you THE BABY will be apart of your life and will be a costant reminder of what a PINHEAD he is! Good luck and I kow it hurts and it will for a while I'm so sorry... Rated: +1Vote for this!
edwinalee4u	Posted Jul 11th, 2009 at 11:13PM Wow! That's hard, but you just have to take it one day at a time, and pray about it. I would not hold a gruge cause he will be living his life while you are mad and not living yours. Move on and up. That was not a mistake, it's to much out there to get pregnant by mistake and he could have just waited for you. He had no respect for you, if he did you would not be going through this. He can very well love you but if he was in love you the would not be happening to you. Now you know what he is going to do to you while you are married so get out while the getting is good. Go out and date so you can meet new people. The best way to get over a bad guy or relationship is to take your mind off of it. I wish you luck! And keep your chin up! Rated: +1Vote for this!
cascarbro	Posted Jul 11th, 2009 at 11:43PM i would give him the boot and that would be the end of that he must have not really loved you like you thought he did but life goes on and you will meet the right person im sure. Rated: +1Vote for this!
solarxmoon	Posted Jul 11th, 2009 at 11:45PM wow...I don't think I could forgive something like that...at least not enough to stay with him... it's not healthy to hold a grudge though, so if you can, forgive him and move on. find someone who will appreciate and respect you. you deserve so much better. Rated: +1Vote for this!
edenray	Posted Jul 12th, 2009 at 9:13AM you can't. this will impact you for your whole life if you marry him... 4 years is way too long for an engagement - seriously you need to move on. if he was going to marry you he would have by now but instead he's getting other women pregnant. i truly don't mean to be harsh but dump him like the bad habit he is. Rated: +1Vote for this!

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