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How can I get him to like me?

I have bad acne, AA breasts, a huge nose, and I have trouble talking to ANYONE, let alone the guy I like. I have no confidence. Although I am on the High Honor Roll, this guy plays 3 instruments and is in all-advanced classes. I am sooo intimidated! I have no idea of what he likes in a girl! Maybe he's one of those guys who LIKES small boobs. Who knows? I've tried talking to him on Facebook and I get one-word answers. (I only really tried once though. He was in a play at school and all my message said was "Hey, nice job tonight" and all i got was a "thanks". Well, I guess there wasn't much more he could say to that. maybe I'm overreacting).I always kind of try to connect with him when I pass him in the hallways at school, and he never really looks me in the face. Is he shy?
We do have something in common: at my school, we are both in Chamber choir(our group is considered to be the best singers of the school). It's only about 25 people. I'm an alto 2, and he's a bass 2, so we both sing pretty low.
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Ask open ended questions, if you are going to talk over the Internet.

You must know some things he likes, if you like anything similar ask him to do it with you.

If he continues to be unchatty, then give up, you don't want some lameass with no personality.
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Posted Jun 30th, 2009 at 2:27AM
You´ll have to learn to like yourself first.
Once you become less self conscious , it will be easier for you to socialize and meet friends, and who knows, maybe the love of your life ?
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Posted Jul 11th, 2009 at 2:28PM
Some of the posters here
have given you pretty good advice.

But the thing no one's mentioned
is how brutally unfair high school can be.

I wish you all the best but seriously...
don't get your hopes too high up.
Teenagers are generally... shallow.

If he's giving you one-word answers...
then, being a teenage
guy not too long ago myself...
I'd say your chances are slim to none.

In his mind, he's probably
just being 'nice'.
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Posted Jun 28th, 2009 at 7:16AM
GURL... you sound like me when I was your age..... don't worry, you are going to develop into a BEAUTIFUL Woman.... I had acne too, in fact I remember some jerk asking what I felt like.... CROWDED??? Don't worry dear....things change and so will you, you may not be happy with yourself right now but this is just a stepping stone to WHO you will be..... (((HUGS))))
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Posted Jun 28th, 2009 at 3:07AM
Well, the first thing you should do is stop bashing on yourself. There are plenty of girls who are not the best-looking who have boyfriends. And do you know why? It's really because of their personalities. I mean, yes, looks do matter, but you don't have to be a bombshell to get a guy. Just find some common ground, and talk to him. Make him want to talk to you. And like Humanoddity said, if nothing happens after that, just get over him. He wouldn't be worth it.
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Posted Jun 28th, 2009 at 2:11AM
I know you like this guy but maybe you want to try finding a guy that will give you more then 1 word answers?
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Posted Jun 28th, 2009 at 2:17AM
maybe he gives u 1 word answers becuz he doesnt like u .. not necessarly becuz of ur breasts or the acne , i know that those wouldnt stop me from liking someone , he could simply not like u , or havent even thought about it , the same way u just dont like other guys , it doesnt mean that its becuz there is something wrong with u
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Posted Jun 28th, 2009 at 2:51AM
He's just not that into you. Who cares? He's not so great.
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Posted Jun 28th, 2009 at 3:00AM
What humanoddity suggested: ask questions that cannot be answered by one word. Example: "What's your opinion about what's going on in Iran with all the election rioting?"

I'd also keep in mind that if he continues to be curt and short with you and picks one-word answers, he's probably not that into you, sorry to say. Shy or not, if you ask open questions, that's his perfect opportunity to talk with you and not have to initiate the conversation, especially if you keep it casual. If he does not respond to casual, open questions and if he never initiates questions or conversations with you on his own, then he's probably not interested in a personal relationship with you...and I might add...it may have nothing to do with your physical appearance. For all you know, he might have someone he's already interested in and he feels like he can't pursue you while he's interested in her. That's always a possibility, so don't blame your physical looks like you seemed to do in your question. There could be many other reasons for his apparent disinterest.
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Posted Jun 28th, 2009 at 9:31AM
When I was a boy in school I noticed that even a girl who was not attractive to me at first could become most attractive even sexually if she was vivacious and self-confident, happy and had a sense of humor.
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Posted Jun 29th, 2009 at 6:45AM
Hey, I actually feel I'm exactly like you, with the small boobs and the big boobs and the acne and everything.
I think that before you try anything with this guy, you should try and feel better about yourself, there are plenty of products out there that can make your acne better, and make up... Feel comfortable in your own body, and don't wear padded bras because they are deceiving and if you wear them you can never be truly confident with what you have.
Just feel great because trust me, you are a lot better than you think. Every girl has a really low self esteem, but never let yours get too low.
PLEASE please don't feel like this, it really is all on your head, I have seem really pretty girls crying about how ugly they are and really not pretty girls laughing about how pretty they are.
it is all in your head
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Posted Jul 10th, 2009 at 9:03AM
listen everyone is pretty. if u want him to like you do something with him and have fun and be yourself don't stress yourself because you think you have big boobs or anything but remember this 3 things 1. BE YOURSELF! 2. Don't act that shy he's just like everyone elseish? and last but not least 3. YOU BEAUTIFUL! :))
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Posted Jul 13th, 2009 at 10:20AM
You can not get anyone to like you. Just be yourself. If he likes you, great. If he doesn't like you, move on.

Honestly, you shouldn't have to work for a person's attention and attraction, you just have to be yourself and hope for the best!
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