How can I help my brother who refuses to go to school or do homework go to school?
My 8th grade brother has been refusing to go to school or do his homework and instead opting for video games. All of his grades are Fs, and I'm worried about him. My mom has had to call the police three times to make him go, and twice they had to come to our house. Almost every day, my mom is late to work, and her boss is very frustrated with her. She has taken away his video games, computer, and iPad privileges countless times, yet he decides to steal his computer/TV monitors back every time. I'm worried because occasionally my brother gets violent and hits my mom - it's not hard; it's fairly weak slapping. My mom can't be continually late, because she CAN NOT lose this job. I need to figure out a way to help my brother go to school and do his homework. Please help.
10 Answers to "How can I help my brother who refuses to go to school or do homework go to school?"
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Sounds like your brother needs a kick in the teeth.
Often, showing them the extremes can be a great help.
I showed my mate who said he didn't care about animals to a slaughter house. I took him on the full tour, and I've never seen anyone cry so hard in my life. Maybe your brother needs to be taken to a prison to speak with the prisoners. Show them what happens to people who don't start pulling their socks up.
Also, Seriously, I'd beat the little ***** senseless for disrespecting his mother.Like (2)
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Tell his *** to stop being spoiled and try to make him realize the damage he's causing. Hell send him to one of those prison places where pathetic wimp convicts tell him to suck it up or he'll end up like them. I had problems at that age too that I ain't proud of, if someone had just done that I might have been better. But don't forget to see why he doesn't want to go, even if people don't know it themselves there could be an underlying problem. I'd ask one of those cops to put him in a local cell for an hour with nothing to do and tell him if they come again he'll be there for ages. that tends to work for kids, nothing terrifies like bordom.
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Sock him in the eye and tell him to get his **** right, and also tell the little **** head that if he ever hits your mom again that you will sock him in the other eye! Be a big sister like my little sisters were, they would have kicked my butt harshly if I ever pulled that.
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She can take that stuff with her to work, or take it to the pawnshop.
If he took back what I'd forbade him to use the latter is what I'd do.
As for the computer, she could put a password on it and not tell him what it is.
...There IS something deeper going on here, and I think your mom ought to get family therapy for y'all.
BUT...your brother is not your job, really.
About the only thing you can do is ask him why he doesn't want to go to school.
I strongly suspect bullying, but it might also be some sort of learning disability that he has.Like (2)
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No matter what he does, be a good example. Don't ever push him away got decisions he's made. Always let him know you love him. You can't change people. However you can influence them.
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tell him to look at the homeless ppl in the streets and if he doesnt change then he could be one of them...
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There must be something wrong if your brother doesn't want to go to school or do his homework. You could start by talking to his class teacher and seeing about how he's performing in school and if there's been changes in his behaviour. I was thinking is he being bullied? That is sometimes the reason why kids refuse to go to school. Try and have a chat with your brother let him know your there for him and that he can talk to you about anything. Another possibility is maybe he's finding homework difficult?
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Is there no father figure ? A grandfather or uncle ?
This is way to heavy for you to have on your young shoulders. He needs some one to bust his chops for him. It's going to have to come from your mom.
She needs to get help with him.
I'm really just so sorry for you kiddo. (( hug))Like (1)
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My brother is similar but not to that extent, but enough to have a concern for. If you have any relationship with your brother, advise him to do the things he needs to do and reason with him. I am the oldest and I naturally have the ability to reason with all types of people/kids/family etc.
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Posted by Christyna Mar 18th, 2013 at 10:02PM
How old is your brother? I suggest that you get a good counselor and find out exactly why your brother doesn't want to go to school. Is he being bullied? Does he have a reading comprehension problem (this is common for boys with bipolar and/or ADHD). And it is very embarrassing to not be making the mark in front of peers. What is the root problem here? Defiance is part of the problem, but there's more going on.
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