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He has been given 6 mths to live if he doesn't stop drinking. He is in a band and drinks at every practice and performance to stop stage fright. We had an arguement the other night about me not wanting to go to a gig. The truth is I can't stand watching him drink himself rotten on stage. He got really defensive about this and doesn't seem to understand
elljaybeen elljaybeen 41-45, F 6 Answers Jun 8 in Health

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He understands perfectly. He's addicted. You can't argue him out of it. You just have to let go. I know you hate hearing this more than anything but it is the truth. Love him if you love him, but you cannot control him. He may only live 6 months but he is making that choice everyday and it's out of your hands.

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Intervention.

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yeah - I would not blame you for that, but I see that he most certainly has feelings for you and your being there for him. You are his life. (otherwise there would not have been an argument)<br />
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How can you help to save his life from such an early grave? that is something only he can do himself - really. You can be there for him, support him encourage him, nudge him, (no don't badger him - just gentle nudges)... He seems to need move convincing (form others or a different source). These suggestions need to be both shuttle yet blatant. Yes it will be an uphill battle that you will need support from the friends of both of you.<br />
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Oh, and there is power in prayer - don't forget to pray. We humans can only go so far and do so much alone.

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You can't you either accept it or walk, nothing is more important than his drinking not his life or you.

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Plan his funeral with him watching and cry a lot in front of him. If he is to stupid to stop on his own you can do nothing for him.

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