Men are more oriented toward action and experience than words. Come up with some activities to share - that can give you both something to talk about afterwards.
Don't think for a minute that you will ever change an introvert or a quiet person into an outgoing or talkative person. If he's a good listener and you like to babble on and on, you may have a perfect match! lol
Avoid emotional talk. If he's already said he loves you, trust that. Does he ever make you laugh? Do you give him "attaboys" when he does something for you?
You need to tell him what you want him to communicate. How you want him to communicate it. Why it is important for him to communicate it.
It is going to take a while of repeated exposure to this sort of positive reinforcement to see the change you want.
I seriously think he's hiding something depressing so just trick him into talking about his feelings then just go with the flow or just ask why he doesn't talk too much
Write each other love notes. And you don't have to say something for it to be true. "You say it best when you say nothing at all."
That's a tricky one....those types are often passive aggressive...which mean nothing but trouble..personally I can't stand that in any long term relationship, so when I see that...I move on. Though it may be compatible for you, thus ok...but the fact that your asking about it...is a red flag.
Have a think about what is making you unhappy with the way he is. Maybe you just need someone whose different. Trying to change a person is always going to fall flat on it's face. Try and live with him the way he is. It might not be his problem. It might be that you need someone different
men more-so then women have trouble expressing their feelings so quietness can be expected but there are other things at play here that must be discussed so without to much pressure you have to find a time and place to talk things out.
Need to understand how his mind works and maybe you should do things through actions and see how that goes? Talk about it to him about the communicating part and see what he suggests because you're finding it hard to understand him and relationships are all about communication
If it's important to you that he communicates and is more outgoing, then he is not "the guy". Especially if you broke up and got back together. I'm guessing that you're settling, or you wouldn't be asking the question.
I never meant to upset you. You originally said you were together 2 years, not 20, and you left out the part about his brain damage. My opinion was based on what little info you gave originally.