How can I make myself trust someone?

There's a reason you don't trust....something happen when you were a kid? Grow up in dysfunctional surroundings? See one of your parents betray the other?

First thing I would do, is go to counseling....find out the root of it all....then, you will be able to see people individually, and learn to trust them, unless they give you are good reason not to....

I want to know the same thing. I can't trust anyone, I can't trust myself. But I will trust someone else before I trust myself.
I don't know why I don't trust people. I feel like I am so naive that things will happen right in front of me and that I won't notice. It's happened before. And I felt dumb for it. I guess I am afraid of feeling dumb. And it's not an issue of self confidence. Because even if I don't feel dumb, I still feel like someone will do something to me.
I just don't feel like people include me, so then they want to keep secrets from me. It's silly. But it's happened before. You can't make yourself trust anyone. But the only answer I can think of... Is just let your guard down, and try to just trust them. Realize that you'll move on if that person does something to betray your trust. Just take the risk.
But that's something else you'll have to learn to do.

I'm asking the same question.

I agree with unicorn - it may not be the most fun or easy answer - but I think it will by far be the most fruitful one!

Couple extra thoughts....
- There's no such thing as a completely 'normal' relationship - everybody has some amount of baggage - I always figure my best bet is to stick to dating the people who know they have baggage and are actively dealing with it

- Maybe you can also build a bit of a guide - with the help of some healthy people- of How someone can PROVE they are trustworthy? There are small steps people take that teach people they can trust each other - I'm not talking about games or tests - I juust mean, learn to understand what being trustworthy LOOKS like, how a trustworthy person ACTS, etc.

- Also - youneverknow may be right - maybe you haven't dated a good person for you, yet? A common exercise is to define what you are looking for in a relationship....being a bit clearer about what you like will help to attract those people.

But, again, I agree w unicorn - looking into one self for the root of any issue is usually the best way to resolve something.

Good luck, hun! Hugs!! ; )

i, too, agree with the core of what unicorn says..."get to the core which is your why for this behavior." i'd suggest counseling ONLY if you're unable to truly identify the reason within you. i'm no master of the human mind, but neither are counselors...they've had significant training nonetheless to try to help people who struggle from within...as i believe this struggle is fought.

assuming there's no mental trip going on, you may already know why you are this way. fear of commitment, for example, is real. self-protection from demons once fought or witnessed is a natural defense, but you'll be lonely in life.

the only thing i'd recommend is NEVER force yourself to trust anyone. again, as unicorn said, get to the core of your "why", dig out those rotted roots, and blossom again.

Honestly, I don't think you can make yourself trust someone. I think trust has to be earned, to a certain degree. Sometimes it's hard-earned.

I guess my approach is like that of Ronald Reagan's, "Trust, but verify."

I think trust has to be earned!

They want the trust, they have to put in the work.

Trusting someone on blind faith is a stupid thing to do.