How can I stand up to my father, without getting slapped in the face? (Asian country, slapping is acceptable)
14 Answers to "How can I stand up to my father, without getting slapped in the face? (Asian country, slapping is acceptable)"
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No you should not stand or argue with him why because the more you reason out it will be negative aspect to your father what the best way is to obey and dont fight over or say something that he want from you just obey and do it later on when you have your own degree it will be ok and easy for you to be independent and live to your dreams now your still in his care so i guess to avoid slapping,verbal abuse,names calling just follow and obey and pray that things will be ok for you and your future.
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It saddens me to hear that women of the world still have to tolerate such abuse. Unfortunately the only answer is to probably get away from him.
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My mother is afraid of him. She does not really help me, sometimes.
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Men that treat their own family like that disgust me. I hope life gets better for you some day
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in asian families its ery hard to stand up to ur elders ur jus nt brought upto do that... i understand fullt cause alltho i dnt gt hit phisicly i do mentaly... what u need to do is stay calm when he hits u stay calm dnt ansa back and jus do what u need to do for him i.e food ansa what he asks u and nothing more.. beleve me him seeing u sad is gona effect him... dnt laugh or joke around him and eventualy he will ask u whats rong and y u r so sad... dt is ur chance to then talk to him... u need to stay calm all the tym tho...
i too have a backbone n a gob on me but ds work trust me......Like (1)
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sed on the added info you supplied in your responses, I'd say you need to walk away from your Dad. There are no excuses for abusing others: not mental illness, not physical illness, not culture. He needs to respect you and not lay his hands on you. It is assault, and it is a crime. He does not have the right or the privilage. It may be the Asian way, but you all live in America.
Let him know that you will not accept the abuse and you will have nothing to do with him till it stops. If he can't accept that, then it is his problem and not yours.
If you are financially dependent on him, then don't argue and keep your distance from him till you can get away. I do hope that is as soon as possible for you. Good luck.Like (1)
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I cannot do anything, for the time being. I do not live in America. I live in Malaysia, where such actions are actually acceptable. I feel like he keeps picking fights with me o_o
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Be reasonable as try to discuss and do talk without doing any fuss or angry face as that way will make things smoother and better without have any slapping.
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I'm taking your side on this. He's in America and slappinganyone in the face is not acceptable. It's dehumanizing! Bipolar Shmipolar. If he continues to abuse you, stop talking to him altogether and get out of that house as soon as possible. By that I don't mean marry the first dude you meet.
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We are not in America T_T
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Oh. Sorry. It's still not acceptable!!
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destroy him with words ...
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And get myself slapped again? No thank you >.< He might do worse than slap me. I remember him hitting me so hard, I cut my lip.
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I'm Asian my suggestion- "just save this father slapping as exceptional in your mind memory then your system will never popup again"
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If I said I was a filial child, I would be lying. My system does not work like that. I am not submissive, I have a mouth, and a backbone.
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Let me ask you one simple question, have you ever in your life sacrifices in any condition in front of anyone? If yes...What was the reason (in one word) ?
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Oh Boy that's a tough one. I have to make a lot of assumptions here. I'm guessing you were born in this country but your parents were not. I guess I would hope that he might listen to my feelings if I presented them with respect. I would tell my father that I loved, respected, and appreciated him but that I
must live my life in a way that is right for me. Perhaps assuring him that you would live in a way that honored his teachings and sacrifices he made on your behalf might soften the blow....(so-to-speak). Good luck to you.Like (1)
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Nah. Both of them were born here. My father, is ******* bipolar =_=
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I say there is nothing like intimately detailed public posting...put a few hundred miles in between you and your dad and let it flow over FB....don't forget to block him after wards for optimum insult.
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There's no way to calmly confront him without getting slapped?
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My father was a heart patient, and his meds give him erratic mood swings. Talking to him is to walk on eggshells.
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Sorry to hear, how about writing to him?
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He is ur father respect him,slap is nothing ,do ur best as he loves u most in this world
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You are asking me to respect an ***, who has no respect for me. The logic is that, you should give respect to people who deserve it. My father does not love me. He stopped, ages ago.
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how u know,may be ur wrong thats why u r still there with him
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Learn to slap harder - or block or duck.
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If only I could.
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Well what's stopping you? You could always start wearing a mask like this: http://bseduced.com/shop/index.php?main_page=popup_image&pID=172
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Best Answer (Chosen by Voting):
Posted by energeez Jul 6th, 2012 at 7:15AM
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