I am having the same problem. I am a very jealous GF . Have been very faithful to the men I have had in my life. But everyone of them have really hurt me with the things they have said to me and done . I really Love with all my heart the man I'm with now and want so bad to trust him. But my head is sick and my heart is been shattered , due to the past . I know it is a sickness I have and I am in therapy now . But I am afraid that I have already done to much damage for him to forgive me. But I won't stop trying. To fix what I have done . The reasons for not trusting him happened over 5 years ago . And I believe we're due to an old drug habit that he had . Which is over. I forgive him! But can't forget and sometimes the pain is overwhelming . It has turned me into a crazied loonatic . And I feel really bad for snooping . But we can't undo damage. We can only try harder to get over it with lots of help .i really do love him we have been throw a lot in the 11 years . And this is not the first time I have violated his space.I really do feel like crap. Because he has done a lot of changing , for me. And still no trust for him! I really hope that therapy helps me soon before it is too late!
Be careful of your jealousy. Psychiatrists treat this as a medical problem. I am too jealous of my wife and here is what is happening in my life.<br />
Read this story here: <a href="http://www.experienceproject.com/stories/Am-Disciplined-By-My-Wife/1340450" target="ep_blank">EP Link</a><br />
and some responses.<br />
Story below got cut off: here is the link: <a href="http://www.experienceproject.com/stories/Am-A-Submissive-Man-With-A-Dominant-Wife/1340844" target="ep_blank">EP Link</a><br />
Here is another post from a woman who has a jealous husband and will get injections for it:<br />
Any suggestion welcome, because i sure am out of ideas.<br />
My husband has always had a bit of a problem about my past, because I had guys before him. I always thought, well, what's the<br />
deal, it's not like you were a virgin. well, after 10 years I found out he actually was one. I am happy that he finally trusts<br />
me enough to admit it, even though i will never completely understand why he kept it a secret for so long. However, it does not<br />
change the fact that he gets sometimes jealous about my time before him. We both know I can't change that and that he was aware<br />
of my past when we got together. Most of the time everything is all right, but sometimes it isn't, and then our life turns into<br />
an emotional hell. He will hurt my feelings with little snide remarks and then just ignore me. Unfortunately, when I am in emotional pain, my whole body hurts, so I can't even function properly then, and 3 kids don't help that either.<br />
So, what could we try to get that weird jealousy under control?<br />
ANSWER FROM HER DOCTOR:<br />
This is a much more common problem than you might believe. In very severe cases this might fulfill the diagnostic criteria of a psychiatric disorder such as a delusional disorder or pathological jealousy. We cannot make an online diagnosis but we do not think your problem is a distinct psychiatric disorder but more or less an adjustment problem. Nevertheless you and your husband deserve help.<br />
Handling the relation with a jealous husband<br />
If your husband feels insecure and is afraid that the other men were better than him: remind him that those relationships were in the past, and that you are with him NOW, in the present. He is being irrational; he needs to see the difference between past and present. A psychotherapist might be able to help him overcome this, if he will agree to going to psychotherapy. You might also try giving him so much appreciation and affection as you can, in order to make him more secure. Perhaps it can help you to see his vicious statements as his problem and not take them personally. He is being unreasonable.<br />
Many men normally swing between being warm and loving and being cold and without feelings. If your husband ignores you, try to keep out of his way and do something on your own. Call a female friend, go out with girl friends, work, or do something else which interests you. When a husband is cold and withdrawn, he has nothing to give to his partner and is of no value to her. It is better, in such a
Realise this is all about you and nothing about him. You might realise this intellectually, - that this is Yr problem, not his, but so far, you arent FEELING it. You need to do some work on yrself. I remember feeling jealous, its a truly horrible feeling, I wd not like to cope with it ever again! You may need some counselling, until you deal with the underlying issue which you have identified, you are unlikely to change.
Write in a journal what you feel and write reasons why it's bad or good.
Be by his side 24/7 until you get bored. Then that jealousy will go away and you'll eventually have to let him go do his own thing.
If he's never given you a reason to not trust him, be grateful. Unless he gives you cause to be jealous, just let it go.